Thursday, July 26, 2007

Bon Jovi - (You Want To) Make A Memory

This is a really touching story. The first thing that attracted me was the melody, it's really nice melody. Then, I looked at the lyrics, it made me touched too. Finally, I went and watched the music video.... it almost made me cry. Crying

Hello again, it's you and me
Kinda always like it used to be
Sippin' wine, killing time
Trying to solve life's mysteries

How's your life, it's been a while
God it's good to see you smile
I see you reaching for your keys
Looking for a reason not to leave

If you don't know if you should stay
If you don't say what's on your mind
Baby just breathe
There's nowhere else tonight we should be

You wanna make a memory?

I dug up this old photograph
Look at all that hair we had.
It's bittersweet to hear you laugh
Your phone is ringing I don't wanna ask

If you go now, I'll understand
If you stay, hey, I've got a plan
We're gonna make a memory
You wanna steal a piece of time
You can sing the melody to me
And I can write a couple of lines

You wanna make a memory?

If you don't know if you should stay
And you don't say what's on your mind
Baby just breathe
There's nowhere else tonight we should be
We Should be

You wanna make a memory
You wanna steal a piece of time
You can sing the melody to me
And I can write a couple of lines

You wanna make a memory? (x2)

Monday, July 23, 2007

The QBQ! Manager

Originated from: QBQ!
By: John G. Miller, Author of QBQ! and Flipping the Switch

People do not come to work to fail.

How do you feel about that statement? Agree? Challenged by it? Wondering what it means?

In our work at QBQ, Inc., we find that the most effective people managers live by this belief. Holding this close to one's heart enhances our view of the people we manage and thus enables us to be more effective managers. Essentially, it means the QBQ! Manager believes this: People that join this team want to succeed, so I will do everything in my power to help them do that! It's a new way of thinking for some. Most managers get promoted because they are technically proficient in some area. The best salesperson becomes sales manager. The sharpest engineer is given the title of Team Leader. The line worker who knows his stuff and possesses leadership traits one day is dubbed "the Boss." But then, the frustration sets in. Why? Because often the newly promoted manager was technically the best at the job and if he or she isn't careful, the lousy questions come easily...

- "Why aren't others motivated?" (Translation: why aren't they more like me?!)
- "When will they get it right?"
- "Why can't HR find us better people?"
- "Why doesn't the younger generation want to work?" (Said differently, Why do they want to wear flip-flops to work?!)
- "When will they do the job like I did it?"
- "Who hired these people anyway?!" (Of course, the truthful answer might be, "Oh, I did!")

These questions only take us to blame, victim thinking, and even procrastination - The Friend of Failure. You see, when we ask them we are failing to engage in the right activities -- those designed to build a team that spins like a top. A team so productive and independent that if we get hit by a bus today at lunch they wouldn't miss us for three days! And what are those right activities? Defining people's jobs. Training. Sharing knowledge. Asking questions. Listening. Getting to know each person one on one. Observing. Encouraging. Confronting. Coaching.

Coaching. Now there's a hot term nowadays. Everyone wants to be a coach, but it's awfully hard to coach if we're thinking, Why can't I get a better team? That negative thought prevents our success - and theirs. And their success is our success. I can only be a good coach if I practice personal accountability by asking QBQs such as:

- "What can I do to improve my coaching skills?"
- "How can I really know each of my staff?"
- "What can I do to understand people younger or older than me?"
- "How can I ensure that I am the best manager I can be?"
- "What can I do to own the results of the team?"

Yes, managers own the results of others. That's the job, whether we like it not. And when we bring this level of accountability and ownership to management and combine it with the belief that people do come to work to win, together we can do great things. and why wouldn't we want to do that? As we say in the QBQ! book: We're all on the same team!

So, managers, know they have come to succeed and expect them to do so. Make management the worthwhile, meaningful career it can be. Just be careful crossing the street at lunch, because sooner or later your team would probably miss you.

Then again, if you've done your job -- maybe not. 

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

酒後喝茶傷腎

转载自星洲日报

酒後不宜立即喝茶。
根據李時診的《本草綱目》,他對酒後飲茶的危害做了明確的表述:
酒後飲茶傷腎,腰腿墜重,膀胱冷痛,兼患痰飲水腫。
但是許多人並沒有這方面的醫學常識,酒後往往會喝茶解酒,以化積消食,通調水道。
但是因為酒味辛甘,入肝、肺二經,飲酒後陽氣上升,肺氣增強;茶味苦,屬陰,主降。酒後飲茶,特別是飲濃茶對腎臟不利。

酒精進入肝臟後,通過(西每)的作用分解為水和二氧化碳,經腎臟排出體外。
而茶鹹有利尿作用,濃茶中含有較多的茶鹹,它會使尚未分解的乙醛(酒精在肝臟中先轉化為乙醛,再轉化為乙酸,乙酸又被分解為二氧化碳和水)過早地進入腎臟。
而乙醛對腎臟有很大的損害作用,易造成寒滯,導致小便頻濁、陽痿、睾丸有墜痛感和大便干燥等。
所以,酒後最好進食瓜、果或飲果汁,既能潤燥化食,又能醒酒。

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

You're The Inspiration

Artist: Peter Cetera / Chicago

1984, by Chicago
  

1997, by Peter Cetera (featuring Az Yet)

You know our love was meant to be
The kind of love that lasts forever
And i want you here with me
From tonight until the end of time

You should know, everywhere i go
You're always on my mind, in my heart
In my soul

Baby

You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration
Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one needs you more than i need you

And i know, yes i know that it's plain to see
So in love when we're together
Now i know that i need you here with me
From tonight until the end of time

You should know, everywhere i go
Always on my mind, you´re in my heart
In my soul

You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration
Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one need you more than i need you

Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one need you more than i need you

You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration
Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one needs you more than i need you

Friday, July 13, 2007

Team Effectiveness Assessment

URL: Team Effectiveness Assessment
- How well do you and your team work together?

How well do you and your team work together?
There is a team effectiveness assessment in mindtools.com.
I've just completed the assessment and my score is 54.

46-75:
You're a solid team member working well as part of an effective team. Lower scores in this range show that there is room for improvement, though. Read the following summaries of key teamwork functions and determine which of the tools will help you become a better team player and build a stronger team.

The assessment also broke down into the following sections, and these are the scores I got for each section. There are also comments and suggestion for you to improve yourself in each individual section. The room for improvement is really big for me. :p

Team Development (Questions 1, 11)
Your score is 6 out of 10

Feedback (Questions 2, 13)
Your score is 9 out of 10

Participation and Articulating Vision (Questions 3, 9, 10)
Your score is 12 out of 15

Managing Conflict (Questions 2, 12, 14)
Your score is 9 out of 15

Group Roles and Structure (Questions 6, 8, 14, 15)
Your score is 13 out of 20

Team Member Development (Questions 7, 12)
Your score is 7 out of 10

Understanding and Collaboration (Questions 5, 14)
Your score is 7 out of 10

For more information, please visit here.

心目中的廟

有一個皇帝想要整修在京城裡的一座寺廟,
他派人去找技藝高超的設計師,
希望能夠將寺廟整修成美麗而又莊嚴。
後來有兩組人員被找來了,
其中一組是京城裡很有名的工匠與畫師,
另外一組是幾個和尚。
由於皇帝沒有辦法決定到底哪一組人員的的手藝比較好,
於是他就決定要給他們機會作一個比較。
皇帝要求這兩組人員,各自去整修一個小寺廟,
而這兩個寺廟互相面對面;
三天之後,皇帝要來驗收成果。
工匠們向皇帝要了一百多種顏色的顏料(漆),
又要求了很多的工具;
而讓皇帝很奇怪的是,
和尚們居然只要了一些抹布與水桶等等簡單的清潔用具。
三天之後,皇帝來驗收兩組人員裝修寺廟的結果,
他首先看看工匠們所裝飾的寺廟,
工匠們敲鑼打鼓地慶祝著工程的完成,
他們用了非常多的顏料,
以非常精巧的手藝把寺廟裝飾得五顏六色。
皇帝很滿意地點點頭,
接著回過頭來看看和尚們負責整修的寺廟,
他一看之下就愣住了,
和尚們所整修的寺廟沒有塗上任何的顏料,
他們只是把所有的牆壁、桌椅、窗戶等等都擦拭的非常乾
淨,寺廟中所有的物品都顯出了它們原來的顏色,
而它們光澤的表面就像鏡子一般,
無瑕地反射出從外面,
那天邊多變的雲彩、隨風搖曳的樹影,
甚至是對面五顏六色的寺廟,
都變成了這個寺廟美麗色彩的一部份,
而這座寺廟只是寧靜地接受這一切。
皇帝被這莊嚴的寺廟深深地感動了,當然我們也知道最後的勝負。
我們的心就像是一座寺廟,
我們不需要用各種精巧的裝飾來美化我們的心靈,
我們需要的只是讓內在原有的美,無瑕地顯現出來。
有些事,現在的你如果想不通,就別想了吧!
有些人,現在的你如果無法面對,就別面對了吧!
有些困擾,現在的你如果不能處理,就別處理了吧!
有些情緒,現在的你如果不知如何分析,就別分析了吧!
不想不理不是逃避,而是暫時讓自己從煩惱裡抽離。

若再繼續糾纏下去,恐怕只是讓自己更深陷於一團亂局!

再說,現在的你沒有辦法處理,不代表以後的你也如此無能為力,
所以,你乾脆把那些事那些人那些困擾和情緒暫時
打包裝箱,等到你有能力去解決的時候再從容優雅地處理,
畢竟時間的手不但會把你撫慰得更柔軟、更有智慧,
也會在不知不覺之間把你曾經打包的東西悄悄鬆綁!
(好棒的一段話)
試試讓自己遠離這喧鬧的城市
偶爾享受一下孤獨與心靈做個溝通
有時孤獨的愈久,幸福愈值得期待

ckkeat2004的部落格看到这篇文章,觉得蛮有意思的,所以就抄过来。。。 呵~~:p
我尤其喜欢highlight的那段文字。。。
很多时候,我们都会不期然的钻牛角尖,殊不知放下会让我们得到更多。

Tips for getting the most out of your meetings

Not putting a dampener, but let's face it, when it comes to meetings, many among us have been tardy at one point or another. And we tend to digress too. About time we did something about it, right?

Here's some tips for getting the most out of your meetings:

  1. * Draw up an agenda. That way everyone knows exactly what to expect, what's next, etc.
  2. * Why why why. Chairperson, make it clear up front why this meeting is happening, why each person's there. There's usually buy-in when people know their role.
  3. * Chairperson, set and honour times for beginning, ending and breaks. At least try to. We know the real world defies all logic (time included) but seriously, make it your KPI to start and finish on time and keep to the agenda.
  4. * No electronic grazing. Laptops closed. Mobile phones on silent mode. Minimal work on blackberries please.
  5. * If all else fails, bring food!
Above all, remember - meetings do not run themselves.
To utilise everyone's time effectively, a firm hand and a lot of thoughtful planning is required. And for the love of all living beings, please respect your colleagues' time by being punctual (or informing the Chair if you will be late).