My Sharing Space

帮助孩子面对他们的感受

2009-10-06T12:34:00.000-07:00

摘自How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

作者: Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

## 帮助孩子面对他们的感受的四个技巧：

1。全神贯注地倾听

2。用“哦。。。嗯。。。这样啊。。。”来回应他们的感受

3。说出他们的感受

4。用幻想的方式实现他们的愿望

* 错误的反应：
- 否定感受
- 讲大道理
- 给出建议
- 提问
- 偏袒对方
- 过分同情
- 业余心理医生

* 不要否定孩子的感受
* 应该学习：产生共情（试图了解对方的感受）
* 让孩子知道所有的感受都是被接纳的，但某些行为必须受到限制。

有所悟

2009-04-10T00:46:00.000-07:00

天空，灰沉沉的。心情，很藍。
時間一分一秒地似拉車的老牛般，過得很緩很慢。

想起曾經看過的一本書──《原來工作是幸福的事》。
書裡頭這麼地說：“一個人倘偌能夠以不斷學習，自我提昇的態度，
努力不懈的工作，將是滿足、豐富且幸福的。”
書中的某些篇章，扣人心弦。

只是呵，倘若工作帶給生活的，
僅剩低落、沉悶的灰藍。
你是否繼續往下走呢？

在一位同事的辦公桌上，發現了一本收錄24則工作格言的外文翻譯本。
中一則如是標題：

“工作不愉快的人，一定不會幸福的。”

仿若當頭棒喝。裡頭也有段簡短的說明文字，
大意是說當你勉強地做事，一定不會愉快，也不可能獲得任何好的結果；
每一項工作，都擁有它的喜悅與樂趣。

原有的工作熱誠與火花，跑哪去了？
工作應有的喜悅與樂趣呢？為何消失無蹤？

“同樣的工作，還是選擇充滿希望，
並能在快樂地工作中發揮成果的為佳。”末句，直讀到心埃裡去了。

工作與生活，本為一體。
你可以選擇以愉快的心情，面對現有的工作，
抑或選擇一份能讓你工作愉快的差事。
無論你選擇以哪一種心態工作，倘若工作帶給你的，僅剩藍得化不開的沮喪。
與其不快樂地勉強工作，交出差強人意的成績，
何不放開心懷，去選擇一份能讓你工作愉快的差事呢？

惟有愉快的工作，方能燃起工作的熱情；
惟有熱愛你的工作，方能工作愉快。

跳出執著的死角，工作方能有轉機；
工作，原是生活中的抉擇，沒有是非對錯。

郁郁寡歡，工作情緒低落的心呵，頓有所悟。

刚刚翻看星洲的网站，看到这篇文章，甚有同感。
本身觉得，如果工作不愉快，会很深的影响生活。
如果工作时觉得很幸福，生活也会觉得很幸福。
希望大家都能找到自己喜欢的工作，享受其中~~~

Donut

2009-01-13T04:19:00.000-08:00

Excerpted from ciao

Ingredients :

1. 5pcs egg yolk
2. 125gr sugar
3. 5-8 gr yeast
4. 500gr hard flour
5. 3tbsp milk powder
6. 80-90 gr butter ( 100 gr is too much )
7. 0,5 tsp salt
8. 200cc cold water (dont use hot water or the flour wont mix)
9. 25gr baking powder
10. Oil

How to make :

1. mix dry ingredients (sugar, hard flour, milk powder, salt, yeast, baking powder),
2. then add cold water, butter, egg yolk (mix all ingredients until become dough),
3. rest the dough then roll and make into doughtnut shape,
4. then rest the dough again until 3/4 size,
5. after that deep fried in frying pan with oil about 175 degree Celcius, (sorry we use celcius here)
6. give some decoration like chocolate on the top, peanut, strawberry sauce, vanilla cream, or anything you like
7. ready to serve.

Can you read this?

2008-11-20T05:50:00.000-08:00

fi yuo cna raed tihs, yuo hvae a sgtrane mnid too.
Cna yuo raed tihs? Olny 55 plepoe can.

i cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg.. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in a wrod are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it whotuit a pboerlm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt!

王永慶的一席話

2008-11-19T06:54:00.000-08:00

一根火柴棒價值不到一毛錢. 一棟房子價值數百萬元 ..
但是一根火柴棒卻可以摧毀一棟房子.
可見微不足道的潛在破壞力,
一旦發作起來,其攻堅滅頂的力量, 無物能禦 .
要疊一百萬張骨牌,需費時一個月,
但倒骨牌卻只消十幾秒鐘 .
要累積成功的實業,需耗時數十載, 但要倒閉
,卻只需一個錯誤決策.
要修養被尊敬的人格,需經過長時間的被信任,
但要人格破產卻只需要做錯一件事 . 一根火柴棒,
是什麼東西呢?
它就是下列四項:
1. 無法自我控制的情緒.
2. 不經理智判斷的決策.
3. 頑固不冥的個性 ..
4. 狹隘無情的心胸.
檢查看看,我們隨身攜帶幾根火柴棒?

Health Important Notice

2008-11-17T22:09:00.000-08:00

* Reduce volume of tea;
* Do not eat bread which JUST toasted;
* Get a distance from charger;
* Drink more water at the morning, less in the night;
* Do not drink coffee twice a day;
* Reduce volume of oily food;
* Best sleeping time is from 10 at night to 6 at the morning;
* Do not have HUGE meals after 5pm;
* Do not take alcohol more than a cup daily;
* Do not take capsule with cool water;
* Do not lie down immediately after taking medicine before sleeping;
* 8 hours lack of sleep will make a person stupid;
* People who get used of napping will not get old easily;
* If you can't get on early morning runs, 5-8 at the afternoon is a great time for jogging;
* When battery left last grid, do not answer the phone. The radiation is 1000 times;
* Answer the phone by left ear. It'll spoil your brain directly by using right ear;
* Do not use earphone for long time. Rest your ear awhile after 1 hour.

Dream properties

2008-11-13T04:17:00.000-08:00

Would you like to stay in these houses?

Can I Borrow $25?

2008-11-13T04:11:00.000-08:00

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.

SON: 'Daddy, may I ask you a question?'

DAD: 'Yeah sure, what it is?' replied the man.

SON: 'Daddy, how much do you make an hour?'

DAD: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the man said angrily.

SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'

DAD: 'If you must know, I make $50 an hour.'

SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.

SON: 'Daddy, may I please borrow $25?'

The father was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.'

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down , and started to think:

Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $25.00 and he really didn't ask for money very often The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.

'Are you asleep, son?' He asked.

'No daddy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.

'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the man. 'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $25 you asked for.'

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. 'Oh, thank you daddy!' he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.

The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.

The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the father grumbled.

'Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied.

'Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to

have dinner with you.'

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.

It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $50 worth of your time with someone you love.

If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

人性中的貪婪

2008-11-09T21:20:00.000-08:00

有個老魔鬼看到人間的生活過得太幸福了，他說：「我們要去擾亂一下，要不然魔鬼就不存在了。」

他先派了一個小魔鬼去擾亂一個農夫。因為他看到那農夫每天辛勤地工作，可是所得卻少得可憐，但他還是那麼快樂，非常知足。
小魔鬼就開始想，要怎樣才能把農夫變壞呢？他就把農夫的田地變得很硬，讓農夫知難而退。
那農夫敲半天，做得好辛苦，但他只是休息一下，還是繼續敲，沒有一點抱怨。小魔鬼看到計策失敗，只好摸摸鼻子回去了。
老魔鬼又派了第二個去。第二個小魔鬼想，既然讓他更加辛苦也沒有用，那就拿走他所擁有的東西吧！
那小魔鬼就把他午餐的麵包跟水偷走，他想，農夫做得那麼辛苦，又累又餓，卻連麵包跟水都不見了，這下子他一定會暴跳如雷！
農夫又渴又餓地到樹下休息，想不到麵包跟水都不見了！「不曉得是哪個可憐的人比我更需要那塊麵包跟水？
如果這些東西就能讓他得溫飽的話，那就好了。」又失敗了，小魔鬼又棄甲而逃。

老魔鬼覺得奇怪，難道沒有任何辦法能使這農夫變壞？就在這時第三個小魔鬼出來了。
他對老魔鬼講：「我有辦法，一定能把他變壞。」
小魔鬼先去跟農夫做朋友，農夫很高興地和他作了朋友。因為魔鬼有預知的能力，他就告訴農夫，明年會有乾旱，教農夫把稻種在濕地上，農夫便照做。結果第二年別人沒有收成，只有農夫的收成滿坑滿谷，他就因此而富裕起來了。
小魔鬼又每年都對農夫說當年適合種什麼，三年下來，這農夫就變得非常富有。

他又教農夫把米拿去釀酒販賣，賺取更多的錢。慢慢地，農夫開始不工作了，靠著經濟販賣的方式，就能獲得大量金錢。

有一天，老魔鬼來了，小魔鬼就告訴老魔鬼說：「您看！我現在要展現我的成果。這農夫現在已經有豬的血液了。」只見農夫辦了個晚宴，所有富有的人都來參加；喝最好的酒，吃最精美的餐點，還有好多的僕人侍候。他們非常浪費地吃喝，衣裳零亂，醉得不省人事，開始變得像豬一樣癡肥愚蠢。
「您還會看到他身上有著狼的血液。」小魔鬼又說。這時，一個僕人端著葡萄酒出來，不小心跌了一跤。
農夫就開始罵他：「你做事這麼不小心！」「唉！主人，我們到現在都沒有吃飯，餓得渾身無力。」
「事情沒有做完，你們怎麼可以吃飯！」
老魔鬼見了，高興地對小魔鬼說：「唉！你太了不起！你是怎麼辦到的？」
小魔鬼說：「我只不過是讓他擁有比他需要的更多而已，這樣就可以引發他人性中的貪婪。」

心若改變，你的態度跟著改變；
態度改變，你的習慣跟著改變；
習慣改變，你的性格跟著改變；
性格改變，你的人生跟著改變。

這篇文章分享給每一個在為夢想努力奮鬥的你，提醒我們在努力追求夢想的同時，
千萬不要忘了最初的本心。

客服人員的七種等級

2008-11-09T18:16:00.000-08:00

１。初級客服人員

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２。中級客服人員

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３。高級客服人員

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４。專業級客服人員

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５。超級客服人員

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６。終極客服人員

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７。無敵客服人員

Joke about Mr. Bean

2008-11-09T00:01:00.000-08:00

1) BRAIN TUMOR:

Doctor : I regret to tell you that you have a brain tumor.
Mr. Bean : Yesss!!! (jumps in joy)
Doctor : Did you understand what I just told you?
Mr. Bean : Yes of course, do you think I'm dumb?
Doctor : Then why are you so happy?
Mr. Bean : Because that proves that I have a brain!

2) MR. BEAN WHILE IN GRADE SCHOOL:

Teacher : What is 5 plus 4?
Mr. Bean : 9
Teacher : What is 4 plus 5?
Mr. Bean : Are you trying to fool me, you've just twisted the figure, the answer is 6!!

3) WHILE IN A DRUG STORE:

Mr. Bean : I'd like some vitamins for my grandson.
Clerk : Sir, vitamin A, B or C?
Mr. Bean : Any will do, my grandson doesn't know the alphabet yet!!

4) AT AN ATM MACHINE:

Friend : What are you looking at?
Mr. Bean : I know your PIN no., hee, hee.
Friend : Alright, what is my PIN no. if you saw it?
Mr. Bean : four asterisks (****)!

5) Marriage:

Friend : How many women do you believe must a man marry?
Mr. Bean : 16
Friend : Why?
Mr. Bean : Because the priest says 4 richer, 4 poorer, 4 better and 4worse.

6) CHATTING WITH HIS FRIEND:

Friend : How was the tape you borrowed from me, is it Ok?
Mr. Bean : What do you mean ok, I thought it's a horror film. I
didn't see any picture.
Friend : What tape did you took anyway?
Mr. Bean : Head Cleaner.

7) DEATH OF HIS MOTHER:

Mr. Bean :(crying) the doctor called, Mom's dead.
Friend : condolence, my friend.
(After 2 minutes) Mr. Bean cries even louder
Friend : what now?
Mr. Bean : my sister just called, her mom died too!

8) MR. BEAN ATTENDING A MEETING:

Colleague : Sorry I'm late. I got stuck in an elevator for 4 hrs because of a power failure.
Mr. Bean : That's alright, me too...I got stuck on the escalator for 3 hrs.

9) Spelling lesson:

Mr. Bean's Son: Dad, what is the spelling of successful....is it one c or two c?
Mr. Bean : Make it three c to be sure!

非同凡想 #2

2008-11-08T21:11:00.000-08:00

非同凡想 #1

2008-11-08T21:06:00.000-08:00

Truck art from Germany

2008-11-08T20:24:00.000-08:00

Dream Land - Switzerland #4

2008-11-08T19:55:00.000-08:00

Dream Land - Switzerland #3

2008-11-08T19:54:00.000-08:00

Dream Land - Switzerland #2

2008-11-08T19:50:00.000-08:00

Dream Land - Switzerland #1

2008-11-08T19:48:00.000-08:00

The journey of our Life

2008-11-08T19:01:00.000-08:00

A long time ago, there was an Emperor who told his horseman that if he
could ride on his horse and cover as much land area as he likes, then the
Emperor would give him the area of land he has covered.

Sure enough, the horseman quickly jumped onto his horse and rode as fast as
possible to cover as much land area as he could. He kept on riding and
riding, whipping the horse to go as fast as possible. When he was hungry or
tired, he did not stop because he wanted to cover as much area as possible.

Came to a point when he had covered a substantial area and he was exhausted
and was dying. Then he asked himself, "Why did I push myself so hard to
cover so much land area? Now I am dying and I only need a very small area
to bury myself."

The above story is similar with the journey of our Life. We push very hard
everyday to make more money, to gain power and recognition. We neglect our
health , time with our family and to appreciate the surrounding beauty and
the hobbies we love.

One day when we look back , we will realize that we don't really need that
much , but then we cannot turn back time for what we have missed.

Life is not about making money, acquiring power or recognition . Life is
definitely not about work! Work is only necessary to keep us living so as
to enjoy the beauty and pleasures of life. Life is a balance of Work and
Play, Family and Personal time. You have to decide how you want to balance
your Life. Define your priorities, realize what you are able to compromise
but always let some of your decisions be based on your instincts. Happiness
is the meaning and the purpose of Life, the whole aim of human existence.

So, take it easy, do what you want to do and appreciate nature. Life is
fragile , Life is short. Do not take Life for granted. Live a balanced
lifestyle and enjoy Life!

Watch your thoughts ; they become words.
Watch your words ; they become actions.
Watch your actions ; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character .
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny .

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2008-11-08T18:57:00.000-08:00

喝水讓你常保安康

2008-11-08T18:40:00.000-08:00

取载自《喝水好健康》
作者：貝曼格利

你沒生病，只是少喝水！水，解開身體健康的密碼。你可能不知道許多不知名的病痛，肇因於水份攝取不足；透過本書，你將發現，喝水就是確保身體健康、遠離疾病的不二法門。

你喝對水了嗎？

每24小時，身體為維持正常生理功能所回收利用的水量相當於40000杯。在這樣的水代謝與回收過程中，依據外界環境的不同，每天身體所短缺的水量大約6～10杯，因此需要喝水補充。

如果你認為自己與眾不同而不需要這些水，那你就大錯特錯了。因為身體每天會用掉相當於6～8杯的水去維持重要的功能，然而真正的攝取量則必需再加50％，所以每天得喝8～10杯水。這些水應該平均分配在一天之中，一天數次。就像你不會讓車子在耗盡油料後才加油一樣， 身體絕不能等到脫水後才喝水。

● 水應該在餐前飲用 。最適當的時機是 餐前三十分鐘 ，尤其是患有胃炎、十二指腸炎、胃灼熱、胃潰瘍、結腸炎、或消化不良導致產氣的人，因為這樣可以使腸胃道做好消化食物的準備。
● 任何時候口渴就喝水 ──即使是兩餐之間。
● 餐後2.5小時喝水 ，可幫助消化作用完全，並可解除因食物分解消耗水所引起的脫水。
● 早上起床後先喝水，可彌補因長時間睡眠造成的脫水。
● 運動前須喝水，如此在運動時才能順利排汗。
● 水果蔬菜攝取量不足及有便秘困擾的人應該多喝水。早上起床後先喝2～3杯水，可發揮輕瀉的功效。

水或液體？
很自然地，大家可能會想為什麼要喝的是水，而不是充斥生活中的各式飲料？畢竟，飲料也是以水為主成份，也同樣具有解渴的功效──至少喝起來感覺是如此。然而事實上，許多健康的問題均始於這種錯誤的認知。對身體的化學反應而言，水和液體具有截然不同的性質。市售飲料含有某些可改變身體中樞神經系統的控制中心反應的化學物質。 即便是牛奶也不能代替水，因為牛奶是食物，對身體的影響也必須從食物的觀點出發。

身體需要的是水──沒有任何物品可以取代它。咖啡、茶、蘇打飲料、酒精、甚至是牛奶與果汁，都不能視為水。

Are you drinking the right tea?

2008-11-08T18:31:00.000-08:00

I'm not sure how true this is, I just received this from a friend.

1. People who use their "brain" to work or students who study hard day and night

--- should drink more Chrysanthemum Tea.

2. People who need a lot of body energy to work or those people that do a lot of exercise everyday

--- should drink Wu Loong Tea.

3. People who travel on a bike or work in dirty and polluted places

--- should drink Green Tea.

4. For a person who likes to sit down all day long and not doing anything even exercising

--- must drink Green Tea and Flower Tea.

5. People who smoke and drink alot of alcoholic drinks

--- should drink more Green Tea.

6. Carnnivore (those people who must eat meat at least once a day or feel sick or not feeling well

--- try to drink some Wu Loong Tea.

7. People who go to the washroom too often or too less

--- should drink more Honey Tea

8. People with high cholesterol and high blood pressure

--- Wu Loong Tea,Green Tea.

9. Those who work with computers everyday

--- need to drink a Lot of Tea (any tea will do).

Whenever you are working with the computer, you should make some tea; drink it when you are free.

Drinking Tea is healthy; it can protect and prevent the harmful Ultraviolet light from harming us (when using computer). Furthermore, it can also cure us when we are tired and help making our body feel fresh again.

Proper Baby Care - Funny! #3

2008-11-08T17:17:00.000-08:00

Proper Baby Care - Funny! #2

2008-11-08T07:55:00.000-08:00

Proper Baby Care - Funny! #1

2008-11-08T07:15:00.000-08:00

I think these are funny..... ^_^

明白它们,你会发现你的人生在改变

2008-11-07T19:58:00.000-08:00

* 人之所以痛苦，在于追求错误的东西。

* 如果你不给自己烦恼，别人也永远不可能给你烦恼。因为你自己的内心，你放不下。

* 好好的管教你自己，不要管别人。

* 你随时要认命，因为你是人。

* 这个世界本来就是痛苦的，没有例外的。

* 你什么时候放下，什么时候就没有烦恼。

* 每一种创伤，都是一种成熟。

* 当你烦恼的时候，你就要告诉你自己，这一切都是假的，你烦恼什么？

* 根本不必回头去看咒骂你的人是谁，如果有一条疯狗咬你一口，难道你也要趴下去

反咬他一口吗？

* 忌妒别人，不会给自己增加任何的好处。忌妒别人，也不可能减少别人的成就。

* 永远不要浪费你的一分一秒，去想任何你不喜欢的人。

* 得不到的东西，我们会一直以为他是美好的，那是因为你对他了解太少，没有时间

与他相处在一起。当有一天，你深入了解后，你会发现原不是你想像中的那么美好。

* 这个世间只有圆滑，没有圆满的。

* 不要刻意去猜测他人的想法，如果你没有智慧与经验的正确判断，通常都会有错误

的。

* 你要感谢告诉你缺点的人。

* 时间总会过去的，让时间流走你的烦恼吧！

* 不要因为小小的争执，远离了你至亲的好友，也不要因为小小的怨恨，忘记了别人

的大恩。

* 感谢上苍我所拥有的，感谢上苍我所没有的。

* 当你手中抓住一件东西不放时，你只能拥有这件东西，如果你肯放手，你就有机会

选择别的。人的心若死执自己的观念，不肯放下，那么他的智慧也只能达到某种程度

而已。

* 如果你能够平平安安的渡过一天，那就是一种福气了。多少人在今天已经见不到明

天的太阳，多少人在今天已经成了残废，多少人在今天已经失去了自由，多少人在今

天已经家破人亡。

* 恶口永远不要出自于我们的口中，不管他有多坏，有多恶。你愈骂他，你的心就被

污染了，你要想，他就是你的善知识。

* 你不要常常觉得自己很委曲，你应该要想，他对我这样已经很好了，这就是修行的

功夫。

* 世界原本就不是属于你，因此你用不着抛弃，要抛弃的是一切的执著。万物皆为我

所用，但非我所属。

* 学会用理解的，欣赏的眼光去看对方，而不是以自以为是的关心去管对方。

* 成熟的人不问过去；聪明的人不问现在；豁达的人不问未来。

* 发光并非太阳的专利，你也可以发光。

* 你可以用爱得到全世界，你也可以用恨失去全世界。

* 爱的力量大到可以使人忘记一切，却又小到连一粒嫉妒的沙石也不能容纳。

* 人总是珍惜未得到的，而遗忘了所拥有的。

* 如你想要拥有完美无暇的友谊，可能一辈子找不到朋友。

Gates' Rules

2008-11-01T18:56:00.000-07:00

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1:
Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2:
The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3:
You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4:
If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5:
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different world for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6:
If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them..

Rule 7:
Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8:
Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance in ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9:
Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on you rown time.

Rule 10:
Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shops and go to jobs.

Rule 11:
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

10 things you can do

2008-04-22T20:11:00.000-07:00

I received this email from the firm yesterday, about global warming, about the Earth Day.

* Change a light
Replacing one regular light bulb with an energy-saving light bulb will save 67.5kg of carbon dioxide a year.
* Drives less
Walk, bike, carpool or take mass transit more often.
* Recycle more
You can save 1,080kg of carbon dioxide per year by cycling just half of your household waste.
* Pump up your tyres
Keeping your car tyres inflated properly can improve petrol mileage by more than 3%. Every 4.4 litres of petrol saved keeps 9kg of carbon dioxide out of the atmosphere!
* Use less hot water
It takes a lot of energy to heat water. Use less hot water by installing a low-flow showerhead.
* Avoid products with packaging
You can save 540kg if you cut down on your garbage by 10%.
* Adjust your air-con
Moving the thermostat just 2° can save about 900kg of carbon dioxide a year.
* Plant a tree
A Single tree will absorb over a 1,000kg of carbon dioxide over its lifetime.
* Turn off electronic devices
Switching off your TV, DVD player, hi-fi set and computer when you're not using them will save you thousands of kilogrammes of carbon dioxide a year.
* Watch An Inconvenient Truth on HBO
Catch what former US vice-president Al Gore has to say about the state of planet Earth and share it with your friends.

Timbaland ft One Republic - Apologize

2008-04-04T08:37:00.000-07:00

Song lyrics | Apologize lyrics

Shayne Ward - A Better Man

2008-03-24T18:13:00.000-07:00

Until the oceans all run dry
Until the stars fall from the sky
Even if words dont seem to rhyme
Ill be addicted to your smile

And if the wind blows out the sun
Ill still believe you are the one
No matter what we're going through
I'll plan to spend my nights with you

I promise you my heart wont fade
I swear to you my soul always
It isnt hard to understand
You're making me a better man

Baby my love will say it all
I'll always catch you when you fall
And if the hard times get too much
I'll still be craving for your touch

I promise you my heart wont fade
I swear to you my soul always
It isnt hard to understand
You're making me a better man

I dedicate my world
I dedicate my all
For every moment
Your leaving me breathless

I dedicate my touch
Forevers not enough
I wanna hold on
I just wanna hold on to you

I promise you my heart wont fade
I swear to you my soul always
It isnt hard to understand
You're making me a better man

It isnt hard to understand, your making me a better man

Shayne Ward - No Promises

2008-03-22T01:19:00.000-07:00

Hey baby when we are together
Doing things
That we love
Everytime you’re near
I feel like I’m in heaven
Feeling high
I don’t want to let go girl
I just need you to know girl

I don’t wanna run away baby
You’re the one I need tonight
No promises
Baby
Now I need to hold you tight
I just wanna die in your arms
Here tonight

Hey baby when we are together
Doin’ things
That we love
Everytime you’re near
I feel like I’m in heaven
Feelin’ high
I don’t want to let go girl
I just need you to know girl

I don’t wanna run away baby
You’re the one I need tonight
No promises
Baby
Now I need to hold you tight
I just wanna die in your arms

I don’t want to run away
I want to stay forever
Through time and time
No promises
I don’t want to run away
I don’t want to be alone
No promises
Baby
Now I need to hold you tight
Now and forever my love
No promises

I don’t want to run away
Baby
You’re the one I need tonight
No promises
Baby
Now I need to hold you tight
I just wanna to die in your arms here tonight

Shayne Ward - It's My Goal

2008-03-22T01:08:00.000-07:00

mmmhmmm yeah yeah yeah.
You know where I come from,
You know my story,
You know why I'm standing here, tonight.
Please don't go,
Don't be in a hurry,
I'm here to make it clear,
Make it right.

Well I know I've acted foolish but I promise you, no more.
I've finally found that something worth reaching for.

Chorus:
I'm not here to say I'm sorry,
I'm not here to lie to you,
I'm here to say I'm ready, that I've finally thought it through,
I'm not here to let your love go,
I'm not giving up, oh no,
I'm here to win your heart and soul,
That's my goal.

Please don't go, you know that I need you,
I can't breath without you, live without you, be without you,
Well I know I've acted foolish but I promise you no more, no more.

Well I won't stop believing that we will be leaving together,
So when I say I love you I mean it forever and ever,
ever and ever.
I'm not here to say I'm sorry

人生

2008-03-12T17:40:00.000-07:00

刚刚收到朋友寄来的这个email，还真是蛮。。。好笑的。
不过，却有很多人这样过生活。。。。
这样的人生，好像不是自己的呢。。。是讽刺，还是悲哀呢？
只能说每个人的选择不同吧。。。

我们一出世，就被教导做个好孩子
拼命的读书，好了读完书了。大学也毕业了。
拼命的做工，赚多多的钱。。。
拼命的存钱，买房子，车子，保险
不小心找到了老婆，好了，结婚了，钱也用完了
再拼命的做工，好了30岁了，开始瓶颈。。。
再拼命的读PARTTIME，好了，学位高了。。。
拼命的抚育孩子，好了，孩子读书了。。。
拼命的灌输孩子要努力读书。。。。
自己拼命的做工。。。学位高了，压力也高了。。。

回到家，妻子照顾孩子，不得空理你。。
孩子忙着读书，不得空理你。。
月头，样样都是钱。
孩子和你拿钱。
妻子和你拿钱
房子和你拿钱
保险和你拿钱
车子和你拿钱

过年了，更加多钱
除了以上，
母亲和你拿钱
红包和你拿钱
旅行和你拿钱
NIKE，LEVI，PRADA，GUCCI，REEBOK，PADINI。。。和你拿钱
海外天也可能和你拿钱

40岁，男人危机。。。
拼命的工作，保住职位。。。
成了大家眼中的势利同事。。。
开始害怕失去工作，开始留意年轻同事。。。
想读书，钱，没有了，想换工，薪金高，岁数大，难讨新工
想尽办法，还是不能爬上经理职位，还被一个年轻人上了位。。

孩子开始读中学了，和你拿更多的钱。
父亲节，拿你给的钱，买了你没有用的东西。。。。
房子还是和你要钱
车子旧了，开始不听话了。。。还是要给钱
妻子也是一样和你拿钱，旦绝对没有收条给你看。夫妻要信任

好不容易熬过50了，要退休了，无风无浪。。。虽然压力大，新上司意见多多，不要紧。我顶！

就要拿功积金咯！但是孩子要出国读书--《 200千！
好了，功积金拿完出来了，一大半给了孩子，剩下的给了妻子
还是回到零。。。退休了，不用做？？？不能
几十年没有呆在家，忽然和妻子相处。。。
妻子看不顺眼丈夫无所事事，命令丈夫开始学做家事，！
扫地，抹地，剪草，洗车，样样都要做。。。

好了，房子供完了。。。车子也没有什么驾了。。。
开始觉得人生很无奈，自己从一个提款机，最后变成了一个佣人。
孩子出国回来了，拍了一些照片。。。开始找工了。。。
毕业=失业，
工难找，最后找到一份只可以养活自己的工作。还是要住在家里。。。吃，交通。去的薪金的一大半。。所以只是意思意思的给RM100给父母做伙食费。。。

3年过去了，孩子好不容易累计的工作经验，薪金高了。。。但是却开始要买辆汽车代步。。。母亲帮助+自己储蓄，给了头期。。。有了汽车，费用也多了。。还是意思意思给RM200作伙食费
好不容易的工作开始稳定了，但是却认识了一个女朋友。。。开始了人生计划。。。要买房子了。。。

由于车子+女朋友费用太大，还是不能给伙食费太多，而且女朋友说3年计划，全部钱要储蓄。。。
2年后，终于买了房子，买了房子，开始要结婚了。。。
我终于有用处了，被叫去提亲。。什么都不可以多说，全部老婆讲。自己讲些客套话就行了。。。
摆酒，婚礼，旅行。。。用了一大笔+母亲储蓄+ 我剩下的功积金。
我还是回归零，。。。继续的剪草，扫地，做家务。。。
结婚了后，孩子很少会来了，忙着自己的家庭。。。偶尔假日才回来看看父母。。。每个月意思意思的给RM200。孩子自己也困难了。要维持自己的家庭
好了，30年前的计划希望能够开始，旅行！！

大事不妙，媳妇怀孕了，生了个孩子。。。母亲代抚养，因为媳妇孩子都做工
本来平静的退休生活又再次起了涟漪。。。每天就要照顾孙子，晚上他哭我就跟着醒，开始学习新的技术，喂奶，包尿片，唱歌，拍手掌。。。
孩子每个月意思意思的给多RM300，当着是孙子的伙食费。。。
照顾了5年后，孙子大了，孩子抱回去了，一切回归平静。忽然想起30年前的约定，决定和妻子去旅行。。。。

还是去不成了，妻子年级大了，病痛也多了。。。自己的腰骨也常闹别扭。。。医生说要多休息。。。孩子已经抱回孙子，每个月意思意思的给回RM300 伙食费
惟有呆在家里看电视。。。。一天早上，妻子看见为什么老头没有起来扫地。。。想去房里骂我，但我已经回到天国去了。。。

孩子为我做了后事。。。
最后我成了一张照片。
人生就是如此讽刺。。。呵呵

《布衣神相》主题曲

2008-02-01T19:29:00.000-08:00

作曲: 谭天乐
填词: 陈诗慧
主唱: 林峰

命运若是愚弄
是否不得不失控
命运就在愚弄令你断了梦
今生即管情动
下世亦注定扑空
如再济世或仗义苍天不理
也不至动容
无惧天色再沉
玄妙中指引
但愿相信有幸能解困
如若终可再寻
迷雾里足印
如雾散月照遍众生
即使披荆都给斩刺多得一位布衣
万世千秋从无人如他再料事
就算改写命运扭转命途
毕生都可告知
是际遇命运让你得到心中意义
即使心灰都给点化终可得到靠依
遇过几千从无人如他再仗义
命里天机都给推测
就如他口中的已知
际遇命运让你先知
都未能改编历史

《布衣神相》片尾曲

2008-02-01T19:23:00.000-08:00

作曲：谭天乐
填词：何杰良
主唱：杨怡林文龙

女:想共你走
让你牵着我手
即使我想但是亦没然后
跟着你走度过春夏与秋
仿佛我心被你看透
男:流利对白没有我像木偶
说不出口哪会爱到永久
长夜化做白昼
我也倦透别要走
请捉紧我手
男:看着你女:靠近你
男:黑暗中女:在半空
合:分不散的拥有
男:如若接着吻
女:吻着心
男:这气氛
合:习惯这一吻的质感
留心在你身边靠近
男:静夜里听你声音
合:没原因待我好得过份
女:活着我的心

最适合女性的6种运动

2008-01-10T07:20:00.000-08:00

转载自凤岗网

运动方案一：滑冰

　　大大小小的滚轴冰场、滑冰场也开了不少家，你去过了吗？夏天的时候，你可以去滑滑旱冰，冬天的时候，又是滑水冰的好时候，滑冰对于协调能力的锻炼是很有帮助的。

　　适合人群：没有什么年龄的界限，但建议你现在尽快学，如果你目前还不会的话。

　　运动装备：运动装(如果你是新手，千万不要穿裙子)，溜冰鞋。

　　运动效果：有助于锻炼身体的协调能力，在身体方面，它可以使你的腿部肌肉更加结实而有弹性。同时，滑冰属于大运动量的运动，它还会提高你的肺活量。

　　脂肪燃烧值：420卡/小时。

运动方案二：自行车

　　这是一项我们再熟悉不过的运动了，它有效地把健身与我们每天的生活结合在了一起，也就是说，它不会占用我们多余的时间。

　　适合人群：任何人，不论你是平常人还是运动员，也不论你的年纪。

　　运动装备：一辆自行车，如果你不是运动员，一辆普通的自行车就可以了。

　　运动花费：除了自行车的正常维护，你不需要任何额外的花费。

　　运动效果：这是一项最易于坚持的运动方式，它可以锻炼你的腿部关节和大腿肌肉，并且，对于脚关节和踝关节的锻炼也很有效果。同时，它还有助于你的血液循环系统。

　　脂肪燃烧值：240卡/小时。

　　运动评价：最有利于坚持的运动项目，最接近于自然，最经济。

运动方案三：慢跑/散步

　　没有什么运动比慢跑和散步更大众化了，它不需要太大的投入，却可以有很大的收益，美国人甚至创造了一个新的词汇，叫做“WOGGING”，它来自于jogging 和walking 两个词的合成，它的意思就是将慢跑与散步结合起来，来体现两项运动的密不可分。

　　适合人群：适合所有人群，如果你热爱运动或者热爱减肥的话，最好选择跑步；如果你没有时间的话，建议你把每天的晨练放在上班的路上，最好是能走路就不要坐车。

　　运动装备：运动装和跑步鞋。

　　运动花费：无；如果你不很挑剔的话，柏油路就可以是你的运动场地。

　　运动效果：对心脏和血液循环系统都有很大的好处，每天保持一定时间的锻炼(30分钟以上)，会有利于减肥，最好的方式是跑走结合。

　　脂肪燃烧值：慢跑：420卡/小时；散步：240卡/小时。

　　运动评价：低投入，高收益，但贵在坚持。

第一个与第二个的运动方案我都很难做到，唯有第三个，我觉得还不错。而且，真的是无花费的运动哦。^_^

Happy New Year

2008-01-04T17:31:00.000-08:00

I just checked my mailbox, and found this. It's quite cute, so just wanna share it here.

Happy new year everybody!!

This is called Discipline

2007-12-06T05:12:00.001-08:00

I just received this forward mail from my hubby. These pictures are really cute, but I'm not sure whether they are real or not. I wonder if my puppy can be so discipline or not. haha~~

How I wish my puppy can be this obedient.... and become like the leader who looks after the puppies in future. haha~~

All of them just fell asleep with the same posture?

haha~~ they are so concentrating on eating their food....

They are so obedient...just sit there and take picture.

A leader is leading the followers.... hehe~~ Once I saw penguins crossing the road like this too.

These dogs are so cute!! Are they Alaskan Malamute? The puppies are sooooo cute~~~~

Haha~~~ lying down......

I can't really see what these animals are........

haha~~~ they look so cute. oh..oh....falling down....

Crossing the river one by one....

10 ways to be your own life coach

2007-11-26T19:42:00.001-08:00

Excerpted from beliefnet.com (Author: Victoria Moran)

I read this article from beliefnet.com, which I found it's really helpful. These are some questions we need to always ask ourselves, to remind us of our goals in lives, or to motivate us, or just to help us find out who we are, what we want to be, and how we want it to be. ^_^

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By asking these questions of yourself, they can help you gain clarity in almost any situation.

1. Is This Good For Me?

Make a pros and cons list.

You can simplify things by asking yourself if this is genuinely good for you -- physically, mentally, and spiritually, today and next week and in 10 years. Because your inner being looks after your true interests -- not just your ego cravings -- you'll get the guidance you're looking for.

2. What Does My Body Have to Say About This?

Every cell comes equipped with awareness. Your body has something in the neighborhood of 40 trillion cells -- quite a consulting committee. Call on it when you're confused or undecided. Relax quietly and ask your body what it has to say. Then note any sensations. Around your heart, are you picking up excitement that says "Yes!" even if there's also a little anxiety about doing something new? Or in your belly, are you felling dread, a "gut reaction" telling you to take another path?

3. What Are My Values?

This is an important question to ask yourself periodically. It's both liberating and motivating to be so well acquainted with your values that you could recite them on demand.

4. What Would Jesus (Buddha, Sai Baba, My Grandmother) Do?

Thinking of a role model, whether a great spiritual teacher of a sweet spiritual person, is like having a mentor on-call. Ask yourself what this person would do in your situation. A technique for tapping their wisdom is to write out the question and the answer. This doesn't mean that you're channeling a spirit or writing a new gospel: you're simply tapping into the wisdom that knowing this person has given you.

Your questioning on paper can become a fascinating conversation that yields surprising insights.

5. What Am I Not Seeing?

We all live with blinders on. They come with having a personal vantage point. And yet the answer to a dilemma may lie in seeing just another millimeter of the situation. Ask, then "What am I not seeing here?" Often, what we're not seeing is what we don't want to see.

Let's say you're feeling uncomfortable in your job for no apparent reason. If you were to see just a bit more of the picture, you might learn or remember that the problem is not the role per se, it's that it isn't using a talent you're yearning to express. Once you see that, you can take appropriate action.

6. What Really Matters Here?

As we grow spiritually, it is essential to discern not just right from wrong, but more important from less important.

Whether it's prioritizing your to-do list or figuring out which demands you can tend to today and which ones will wait, you need to ask yourself what really matters. Generally speaking, things with feelings -- i.e., living beings, particularly those closest to you -- will take precedence. No matter the answer, you'll learn what's of greatest consequence to you in this instance.

7. Where Should I Act and Where Should I Step Back?

Ask this to get a sense of what is yours to do and what isn't. This is the advanced class in enlightened living. Countless times we've all acted too soon or without sufficient information, or we've stepped in where our input wasn't needed and muddied circumstances that were already working themselves out.

When you ask yourself, quietly and confidently, what your part is in a given situation, and where to wait or exit entirely, you'll get a clear idea of your role. If you ask the question and still want to act against the advice of your internal coach, remind yourself that, although life is a series of little dramas, none of them needs a drama queen or king.

8. What Would Make Me Genuinely Happy?

"Eudemonic" is a little-used word that means "happy-making". What are all the eudemonic activities you can think of? Make a list. How many of these happy-makers did you do yesterday, last week, this year? Which ones can you indulge in today? When you're facing a challenge, ask what would make you happy in this situation.

And cast a wide net. You may have "taking a cruise" on your list, but if you also remember that "hanging out at the library" and "playing with my dog" are eudemonic for you, you get to be happy every day -- and it's important. what would make you happy now (that wouldn't make you unhappy later)? Do that.

9. Who Has Some Guidance for Me Right Now?

When you need help from another person, trust your inner knowing to tell who this is. Sit and do some slow, deep breathing for two or three minutes to go into a state of receptivity. Then ask, "Who has the right guidance for me?"

You may see a face or hear a name immediately, or you may led down a thought-trail to a person. Use your rational mind to weigh the answer.

10. What is the Divine Intention for My Life Today?

As football has a Super Bowl, life has a Super Question, and this is it, asking the will of God, or the way of Tao, etc. Your questions is to know how your day can be in keeping with divine design. You can go off in a different direction -- we do it all the time and learn the lessons of the detour. Nevertheless, when you ask this and even attempt to follow through on the answer, you're taking the high road.

It's a great place to start. So ask the question. Its answer might be the only one you'll ever need.

QBQ! - Choosing to give

2007-10-23T07:33:00.000-07:00

Originated from: QBQ!
By: John G. Miller, Author of QBQ! and Flipping the Switch

Brad Meuli and his team are a bunch of givers. They give all day long. Though it's more natural to take, somehow they've overcome normal human selfishness and have turned their focus outward like many never do. I will admit I'm pretty selfish—with my time. The hardest thing for me to do is to give my minutes and hours to others. It's an ever-present weakness that I must always work on. And I am afraid it's obvious to others too. My wife, Karen, gave me a t-shirt that says "It's All About Me!" I don't think it was a positive statement at the time. But for Brad it really is all about others.

Brad is CEO of the Denver Rescue Mission in Denver, Colorado. He and his amazing team help homeless people—mostly men—all day long. Now that's a mission. And that's why this story is so funny to me. In Brad's own words:

John, with the holiday season approaching, I am reminded of an experience I've been meaning to tell you about. Although I try hard to be a very positive guy, this is a less-than-complimentary customer service story. Last winter I was in a fast-food Mexican place that I frequent once a week. If nothing else I am a consistent customer. When I ate there that January day I noticed one of the employees had placed on my tray, with my food, a card for a free order of potato oles. It read:

Seasons' Greetings! ‘Tis the time of year to spread good cheer.

And share best wishes with those we hold dear. So we want to thank you loud and clear ...

With tasty FREE OLES to start off your year!

ONE FREE SMALL POTATO OLES. Anytime in January 2007 with this card.

This sounded great to me and I was impressed by the card so I thought I would try them. I approached a young man at the cash register, who was standing next to his manager, and I said, “Hey, I would like to try the free oles, please. Here's my card.” It suddenly got strangely quiet. Finally, the manager said, “That is for the next time you come in.” Surprised by the comment (especially coming from the manager), I stated, "But it says, 'Anytime in January 2007 with this card.'" He repeated, “It's for next time.” I then realized I was not getting any oles, at least not any free ones! Of course I was thinking maybe I should go outside, stand in their parking lot for 20 seconds, and come back in. That would then become my "next time."

In the end I felt like I had asked for something I wasn't supposed to have. No longer was I one they “hold dear.” I could only wonder to myself, What's the reason for putting out a card like this if they are not prepared to honor it?

John, I'd like to say I never went back and that this experience kept me from patronizing this restaurant forever, but it did not. I have returned there when my hunger was high, but each time my expectations were low—because I now know I am not truly valued.

Brad
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A humorous paradox: A giving man is not given his free oles. But let's not focus on the fast-food place who failed to win their customer's heart. What matters most is Brad and his staff continue to give freely of themselves toward the transformation of lives while never asking negative questions like, "Why can't these men just pull their lives together?" and "Why won't people just help themselves more?" and "When are others gonna pitch in and help the homeless too?" They just keep asking everyday, "What can I do to make a difference?" This better question is not new—and is always worth posing—but when they ask it at the Denver Rescue Mission, it seems so much more meaningful.

Our 19-year-old son, Michael, recently gave an evening to the Mission where he helped serve dinner to the hungry men and woman. As they shuffled in and out of the meal hall, he saw what true hardship is all about. And what true giving looks like. I hope giving to others is a value he will always "hold dear" since there's no other way to leave a legacy of service. I better work on that myself.

Meanwhile, to Brad I say let's do lunch and we'll have a whole bunch of potato oles—my treat. And to any of you who want to help the Denver Rescue Mission help hungry and homeless people, just visit www.denrescue.org today.

我只有八歲！你记得你八岁是如何过的么？

2007-08-26T21:44:00.001-07:00

在伊乐园看到这个文章，觉得很有意思，所以把它抄过来了，希望作者不会介意。

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我只有八歲
我是盧安達的一個小孩，我只有八歲。
我們盧安達不是個有錢的國家，可是我運氣很好，過去一直過得很愉快。
爸爸是位小學老師，我就在這所小學唸書，放了學，我們小孩子都在家附近的田野玩。
家附近有樹林，也有一條河。我大概五歲起就會游泳了，在我們這些小孩子中，我不僅游得最好，也跑得最快。
因為是鄉下，我們附近有不少的動物，我最喜歡看的是老鷹，牠們飛的姿態真夠優雅。
可是我也很怕老鷹，因為牠們常常俯衝下來抓小動物，有一次，有一隻小山貓被一隻大老鷹活活抓走。
有一次我問媽媽，「媽媽，大老鷹會不會把小孩抓走？」
媽媽說：「傻孩子，小孩子旁總有大人在旁邊的，老鷹不敢抓小孩，因為e們知道大人一定會保護小孩子的。」
我懂了，所以我永遠不敢離開家太遠，我怕老鷹把我抓走。
今年，我開始讀報了，看到報上名人的照片，我老是想，有一天我的照片能上報多好。
我的親戚朋友們都說我是個漂亮小孩，也許有一天我會像邁克傑克遜一樣地有名，報上常常登我的照片。
三星期前，爸爸忽然告訴我們，我們的總統遇難了，他認為事態嚴重，因為有心政客可能乘機將事情越搞越糟。
就在那天晚上，一群不知道那兒來的士兵進入了我們的村子，我睡著了，什麼都不知道，第二天早上才知道村子裡所有的男人都被打死了，爸爸也不例外。
媽媽居然還有能力將爸爸埋葬了，當天下午我們開始流亡。
現在回想起來，媽媽平時是一位很軟弱的人，這次忽然顯得非常剛強，惟一的理由是因為她要將我送到安全地帶去。
媽媽在路上，一再地叮嚀我，有人非常恨我們，因此如果發現有壞人來了，可能來不及跑，可是我是小孩子，跑得飛快，一定要拚老命地逃走。
媽媽也一再叫我找一棵樹，或者一塊大石頭，以便躲起來，讓壞人看不到。
就在逃亡的第二天，壞人來了，媽媽叫我趕快逃，她自己反而不走，我找到了一棵大樹，躲在樹後面，可是我看到了那些壞人殺人的整個過程。媽媽當然也死了，這批士兵沒有留一個人，不像上次，上次他們只殺男人，這次沒有一個人能逃過。
士兵走了以後，我才回去看我的媽媽。看到媽媽死了，我大哭了起來，因為天快暗了，我怎麼辦？我只有八歲！
虧得還有一個大哥哥也活著，我猜他大概有十幾歲，是個又高又壯的年輕人，剛才他一定也躲了起來，他看我好可憐，來拉我走，他說我們一定要趕快走，找到另一個逃亡的團體，人不能落了單。
我和這位大哥哥相依為命，也找到了一批逃亡的人，好幾次有救濟團體給我們東西吃，雖然很少，可是都虧得這位大哥哥，替我弄到食物吃，如果不是他的話，我早就餓死了，因為小孩子是很難拿到食物的。
由於我們都大半處於飢餓狀態，我們都越來越瘦，這位大哥哥也不是壯漢了。
有一天，他說他要去一條河邊喝水，我告訴他最好忍一下，因為河裡都有過死屍，他說他渴得吃不消，一定要去冒一下險。當天大哥哥就大吐特吐起來，而且虛弱得走不動了。
他要休息，然後勸我不要管他，和其他大人一起繼續得逃亡。
這次我堅決不肯，決定陪他，他到後來連跟我吵的力氣都沒了。
我偷偷地摸了他的額頭，發現他額頭好燙。
大哥哥昏睡以後，我也睡著了。等我醒過來，我知道他已永遠的離開我了。
我和大哥哥說了再見以後，走回了大路，不知道什麼原因，我從此沒有看到流亡的難民，我只有一片麵包，二天內，我只吃了這一片麵包，我已越來越走不動了。
就在這時候，我發現一頭大老鷹在跟著我，它原來在天上飛，後來發現我越走越慢，索性飛到了地面，我走牠也走，我停牠也停。雖然沒有見到任何逃亡潮，卻看到了一部吉普車開過來，我高與極了，以為他們會救我一命，可是吉普車沒有停，我心裡難過到了極點。
吉普車開過去以後，忽然停了下來，車上有人走下來，我的希望又來了。
可是那位先生並沒有來救我，他拿起一架配有望遠鏡頭的照相機對著我拍照，當時那位大老鷹站在我附近。
照完以後，吉普車又走了。我這才想起這位先生一定是一位記者，他要趕回去，使全世界報紙都會登到這一照片，老鷹在等著小孩過世。
明天早上，你們在吃豐盛早飯的時候，就會在報紙上看到我的照片，我不是很希望能上報嗎？這次果真如了願。
你們看到的是一個瘦得皮包骨的小孩，已經不能動了。
可是我過去曾是個快樂、漂亮而又強壯的小男孩，我曾經也有父母親隨時陪在我的身旁，使老鷹不敢接近我。
我曾經全身充滿了精力，每天在河裡游泳。
現在，我只有一個願望，在老鷹來啄我的時候，我已不會感到痛。

Bon Jovi - It's My Life

2007-08-23T08:41:00.001-07:00

This song was released on May 23, 2000, from the album Crush, written by Jon Bon Jovi, Richie Sambora, Jay Orpin and Max Martin.

This ain't a song for the broken-hearted
No silent prayer for the faith-departed
I ain't gonna be just a face in the crowd
You're gonna hear my voice
When I shout it out loud

[Chorus:]
It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
(It's my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Like Frankie said
I did it my way
I just wanna live while I'm alive
It's my life

This is for the ones who stood their ground
For Tommy and Gina who never backed down
Tomorrow's getting harder make no mistake
Luck ain't even lucky
Got to make your own breaks

[Chorus:]
It's my life
And it's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
(It's my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Like Frankie said
I did it my way
I just want to live while I'm alive
'Cause it's my life

Better stand tall when they're calling you out
Don't bend, don't break, baby, don't back down

[Chorus:]
It's my life
And it's now or never
'Cause I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
(It's my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Like Frankie said
I did it my way
I just want to live while I'm alive

For more information about this song: wikipedia - It's My Life.

巴菲特的建言

2007-08-22T22:57:00.001-07:00

资料来源：转寄的电子邮件

There was a one-hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffett, the second
richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very
interesting aspects of his life:
(以下摘錄自CNBC電視台對世界排名第二的富豪華倫巴菲特所做的一小時專訪,巴菲特
目前已經捐310億美元給慈善機構,他對於人生的一些見解非常有趣)

1.He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started
too late!
(他11歲開始買了第一張股票,但現在還是很後悔說他太晚買了!

2.He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.
(他14歲時,就用他從小時候送報紙所賺的錢,買了一個小農場.)

3.He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha, that
he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything
he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.
(他雖然富甲一方,卻仍然住在奧瑪哈小鎮的一棟三房小屋內,那是他結婚50週年後所買
的房子.他說他們家什麼都有了啊! 他家甚至連圍牆或籬笆都沒有!)

4.He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security
people around him.
(他都自己開車出門,也沒有請司機或保全人員跟著他.)

5.He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest
private jet company.
(他雖然是世界最大的私人噴射客機公司的老闆,但卻從來沒有搭私人飛機旅行過.)

6.His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one
letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the
year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis. He has
given his CEO's only two rules.
(他公司 Berkshire Hathaway,旗下擁有63家企業.他每年只寫一封信給這些企業的總
裁,把今年的營運目標告訴他們.他從來不曾定期主持或召開會議,他給這些總裁們的守則只有
以下兩條)
Rule number 1: do not lose any of your share holder's money.
(守則一:不要讓公司的投資人虧錢)
Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.
(守則二: 不要忘記守則一)

7.He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time after he
gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch Television.
(他不太跟群眾交際應酬.下班後主要活動就是弄一點爆米花來吃吃,跟看看電視.)

8.Bill Gates, the world's richest man met him for the first time only 5
years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with Warren
Buffet. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But when Gates
met him, the
meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren
Buffet.
(五年前世界首富比爾蓋茲第一次跟巴菲特見面,他覺得他跟巴菲特根本沒有什麼共同
點,所以他只排了半個小時跟巴菲特會談.但當他們見面後,一共談了10個小時,從此之
後,比爾蓋茲開始變成巴菲特的忠實信徒,獻身慈善事業.)

9.Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone,nor has a computer on his desk.
(巴菲特不帶手機,桌上有沒電腦.)
His advice to young people:'Stay away from credit cards and invest in
yourself and Remember:
他給時下年輕人的建議是「遠離信用卡的物慾, 多投資自己.」並且牢記:
A.Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.
(錢是人創造出來的,但是錢不會創造人.)
B.Live your life as simple as you are.
(過你自己想過的簡單生活吧!)
C.Don't do what others say, just listen them, but do what you feel good
(別人說的話聽聽可以,但不一定要照做,做你自己覺得很棒的事.)
D.Don't go on brand name; just wear those things in which u feel
comfortable.
(別走入名牌的迷思,穿你覺得舒服的服飾即可.)
E.Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; just spend on them who
really in need rather.
(與其把錢花在不必要的事情上,倒不如把錢花在真正需要的地方.)
F.After all it's your life then why give chance to others to rule our life.
(總而言之,這是你的人生,幹嘛讓其他人來指揮你的人生呢?)

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喜欢最后的那几个建议 -- 过自己想过的生活~~ ^_^

Learn to Say NO!

2007-08-22T18:48:00.001-07:00

Originated from About.com

If you’ve taken steps to go back to school, you probably made the decision with those you care about foremost in your mind. In fact, you may be more worried about how to help spouses, children, friends and co-workers adjust than how to make the transition smoother for yourself.
Now the greatest challenge, one that can change your life for the better during school and beyond, is learning to say NO! To help you get comfortable with the idea that it’s okay to be a little “selfish,” here are seven guilt free “NO” proclamations. Use them to effectively manage your time and achieve your educational goals:

1. NO, I will not be cooking tonight.
I have purchased a healthy meal on the way home. We’ll eat well, and I’ll have two extra hours to study without having to cook or clean up.

Guilt-free pass:

2. NO, I cannot organize the fundraiser this year.
I am back in school. With my new degree, I will be able to get a job with a better company that may want to sponsor us one day. I’ll help where I can. Good luck!

Guilt free pass:

3. (A tough one) NO, honey, I can’t go to your game this week.
Mom/Dad is going to go instead. He’ll/she’ll cheer just as hard as I would, and you will still get taken out for ice cream after. I’ll be looking forward to hearing all about it when you get home!

Guilt free pass:

4. NO, I can’t work late tonight. I have a test at school.
I do have my reports, ready ahead of schedule. I’d be happy to stay later tomorrow.

Guilt free pass:

5. NO, I can’t baby-sit tonight.
I’ll be studying all weekend. I probably won’t be available many weekends this semester. I’ll be glad to help you when I complete my studies, but you’d better find another person in the meantime.

Guilt free pass:

6. NO, I can’t join you for dinner tonight.
I’d love to, but I won’t have much down time until after exams. I hope you’ll take a rain check, because I’ll need someone to celebrate with when I finish school!

Guilt free pass:

7. NO, I am not going to miss my hair appointment/golf game/lunch date.
I know I have a tight schedule, but I need to let my hair down for a few hours; I’m on overload!

Guilt free pass:

These are very reasonable things to say NO to; you’re not asking anyone to do anything they’re incapable of. One trap to avoid is hero syndrome. You may not realize it, but even those who claim to feel totally put upon can secretly feel like there is no one else for the job. You can get in your own way by thinking that the house will crumble if you step aside. Be sure not to let your ego cause you to stay overwhelmed.

Before you can fully immerse yourself in the world of adult education, you have to be alright with doing something for the most important person in your life… YOU. It’s a tall order, asking people to do without you for awhile so that you can make some positive changes. But before you know it, everyone will learn something new about themselves.

相由心生

2007-08-14T07:26:00.001-07:00

转载自：大纪元

宋朝苏东坡与佛印禅师，某日到金山寺打坐参禅，苏东坡觉得身心通畅，于是问禅师道：“禅师，你看我坐得如何？”佛印禅师说：“好庄严，像一尊佛！”苏东坡甚喜，佛印反问：“你看我又如何？”苏东坡不改喜好嘲弄的本性，随即回答：“像一堆牛粪！”佛印禅师听了也不动怒，只是默不作答。苏东坡窃喜，逢人便说： “我今天赢了。”

消息传到妹妹苏小妹耳中，探问究竟？苏东坡眉飞色舞，神采飞扬地如实叙述了一遍，苏小妹天资聪颖，才华出众，她听了苏东坡得意的叙述后，温婉地说：“哥哥！你输了！禅师的心中如佛，所以他看你如佛，而你心中像牛粪，所以你看禅师才像牛粪。”

苏东坡哑然，方知自己禅功不及佛印禅师。苏东坡才高八斗，难免恃才傲物。其实傲慢者，不懂得谦卑，心量往往不够宽广，因此较易口出狂言。

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“结庐在人境，而无车马喧；问君何能尔，心远地自偏。”（东晋陶渊明诗），一个恬静淡泊的隐者，远离尘俗，不染尘烟；即使身居闹市，心中却因不为外境所转，而如如不动，当然心远地自偏了。

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“闲来无事不从容，睡觉东窗日已红；万物静观皆自得，四时佳兴与人同。”（宋朝程颢诗）闲散从容的日子，逍遥自在且快乐，心中无事挂心头，每天睡到自然醒，所见万事万物，皆能怡然自得，这样的心境，心中所呈现的景物，焉能不美？

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“甚矣吾衰矣！怅平生，交游零落，只今余几？白发空垂三千丈，一笑人间万事，问何物能令公喜？我见青山多妩媚，料青山见我应如是。”（宋朝辛弃疾词）这首词中 “我见青山多妩媚，料青山见我应如是。”是辛弃疾寄情大自然中，写青山绿水之可爱。心境恬淡闲适，远超红尘，笑谈人间万事，山水人情面貌，无物不美。

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心地宽容慈悲，心境祥和宁静，心中永存善念，口中好话滋养，如果人人都能如此，人间净土，唾手可得。

Bon Jovi - (You Want To) Make A Memory

2007-07-26T18:15:00.001-07:00

This is a really touching story. The first thing that attracted me was the melody, it's really nice melody. Then, I looked at the lyrics, it made me touched too. Finally, I went and watched the music video.... it almost made me cry.

Hello again, it's you and me
Kinda always like it used to be
Sippin' wine, killing time
Trying to solve life's mysteries

How's your life, it's been a while
God it's good to see you smile
I see you reaching for your keys
Looking for a reason not to leave

If you don't know if you should stay
If you don't say what's on your mind
Baby just breathe
There's nowhere else tonight we should be

You wanna make a memory?

I dug up this old photograph
Look at all that hair we had.
It's bittersweet to hear you laugh
Your phone is ringing I don't wanna ask

If you go now, I'll understand
If you stay, hey, I've got a plan
We're gonna make a memory
You wanna steal a piece of time
You can sing the melody to me
And I can write a couple of lines

You wanna make a memory?

If you don't know if you should stay
And you don't say what's on your mind
Baby just breathe
There's nowhere else tonight we should be
We Should be

You wanna make a memory
You wanna steal a piece of time
You can sing the melody to me
And I can write a couple of lines

You wanna make a memory? (x2)

The QBQ! Manager

2007-07-23T19:01:00.001-07:00

Originated from: QBQ!
By: John G. Miller, Author of QBQ! and Flipping the Switch

People do not come to work to fail.

How do you feel about that statement? Agree? Challenged by it? Wondering what it means?

In our work at QBQ, Inc., we find that the most effective people managers live by this belief. Holding this close to one's heart enhances our view of the people we manage and thus enables us to be more effective managers. Essentially, it means the QBQ! Manager believes this: People that join this team want to succeed, so I will do everything in my power to help them do that! It's a new way of thinking for some. Most managers get promoted because they are technically proficient in some area. The best salesperson becomes sales manager. The sharpest engineer is given the title of Team Leader. The line worker who knows his stuff and possesses leadership traits one day is dubbed "the Boss." But then, the frustration sets in. Why? Because often the newly promoted manager was technically the best at the job and if he or she isn't careful, the lousy questions come easily...

- "Why aren't others motivated?" (Translation: why aren't they more like me?!)
- "When will they get it right?"
- "Why can't HR find us better people?"
- "Why doesn't the younger generation want to work?" (Said differently, Why do they want to wear flip-flops to work?!)
- "When will they do the job like I did it?"
- "Who hired these people anyway?!" (Of course, the truthful answer might be, "Oh, I did!")

These questions only take us to blame, victim thinking, and even procrastination - The Friend of Failure. You see, when we ask them we are failing to engage in the right activities -- those designed to build a team that spins like a top. A team so productive and independent that if we get hit by a bus today at lunch they wouldn't miss us for three days! And what are those right activities? Defining people's jobs. Training. Sharing knowledge. Asking questions. Listening. Getting to know each person one on one. Observing. Encouraging. Confronting. Coaching.

Coaching. Now there's a hot term nowadays. Everyone wants to be a coach, but it's awfully hard to coach if we're thinking, Why can't I get a better team? That negative thought prevents our success - and theirs. And their success is our success. I can only be a good coach if I practice personal accountability by asking QBQs such as:

- "What can I do to improve my coaching skills?"
- "How can I really know each of my staff?"
- "What can I do to understand people younger or older than me?"
- "How can I ensure that I am the best manager I can be?"
- "What can I do to own the results of the team?"

Yes, managers own the results of others. That's the job, whether we like it not. And when we bring this level of accountability and ownership to management and combine it with the belief that people do come to work to win, together we can do great things. and why wouldn't we want to do that? As we say in the QBQ! book: We're all on the same team!

So, managers, know they have come to succeed and expect them to do so. Make management the worthwhile, meaningful career it can be. Just be careful crossing the street at lunch, because sooner or later your team would probably miss you.

Then again, if you've done your job -- maybe not.

酒後喝茶傷腎

2007-07-18T17:52:00.001-07:00

转载自星洲日报

酒後不宜立即喝茶。
根據李時診的《本草綱目》，他對酒後飲茶的危害做了明確的表述：
酒後飲茶傷腎，腰腿墜重，膀胱冷痛，兼患痰飲水腫。
但是許多人並沒有這方面的醫學常識，酒後往往會喝茶解酒，以化積消食，通調水道。
但是因為酒味辛甘，入肝、肺二經，飲酒後陽氣上升，肺氣增強；茶味苦，屬陰，主降。酒後飲茶，特別是飲濃茶對腎臟不利。

酒精進入肝臟後，通過（西每）的作用分解為水和二氧化碳，經腎臟排出體外。
而茶鹹有利尿作用，濃茶中含有較多的茶鹹，它會使尚未分解的乙醛（酒精在肝臟中先轉化為乙醛，再轉化為乙酸，乙酸又被分解為二氧化碳和水）過早地進入腎臟。
而乙醛對腎臟有很大的損害作用，易造成寒滯，導致小便頻濁、陽痿、睾丸有墜痛感和大便干燥等。
所以，酒後最好進食瓜、果或飲果汁，既能潤燥化食，又能醒酒。

You're The Inspiration

2007-07-17T17:15:00.001-07:00

Artist: Peter Cetera / Chicago

1984, by Chicago

1997， by Peter Cetera (featuring Az Yet)

You know our love was meant to be
The kind of love that lasts forever
And i want you here with me
From tonight until the end of time

You should know, everywhere i go
You're always on my mind, in my heart
In my soul

Baby

You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration
Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one needs you more than i need you

And i know, yes i know that it's plain to see
So in love when we're together
Now i know that i need you here with me
From tonight until the end of time

You should know, everywhere i go
Always on my mind, you´re in my heart
In my soul

You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration
Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one need you more than i need you

Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one need you more than i need you

You're the meaning in my life
You're the inspiration
You bring feeling to my life
You're the inspiration
Wanna have you near me
I wanna have you hear me sayin'
No one needs you more than i need you

Team Effectiveness Assessment

2007-07-13T03:43:00.000-07:00

URL: Team Effectiveness Assessment
- How well do you and your team work together?

How well do you and your team work together?
There is a team effectiveness assessment in mindtools.com.
I've just completed the assessment and my score is 54.

46-75:
You're a solid team member working well as part of an effective team. Lower scores in this range show that there is room for improvement, though. Read the following summaries of key teamwork functions and determine which of the tools will help you become a better team player and build a stronger team.

The assessment also broke down into the following sections, and these are the scores I got for each section. There are also comments and suggestion for you to improve yourself in each individual section. The room for improvement is really big for me. :p

Team Development (Questions 1, 11)
Your score is 6 out of 10

Feedback (Questions 2, 13)
Your score is 9 out of 10

Participation and Articulating Vision (Questions 3, 9, 10)
Your score is 12 out of 15

Managing Conflict (Questions 2, 12, 14)
Your score is 9 out of 15

Group Roles and Structure (Questions 6, 8, 14, 15)
Your score is 13 out of 20

Team Member Development (Questions 7, 12)
Your score is 7 out of 10

Understanding and Collaboration (Questions 5, 14)
Your score is 7 out of 10

For more information, please visit here.

心目中的廟

2007-07-13T01:57:00.000-07:00

有一個皇帝想要整修在京城裡的一座寺廟，
他派人去找技藝高超的設計師，
希望能夠將寺廟整修成美麗而又莊嚴。
後來有兩組人員被找來了，
其中一組是京城裡很有名的工匠與畫師，
另外一組是幾個和尚。
由於皇帝沒有辦法決定到底哪一組人員的的手藝比較好，
於是他就決定要給他們機會作一個比較。
皇帝要求這兩組人員，各自去整修一個小寺廟，
而這兩個寺廟互相面對面；
三天之後，皇帝要來驗收成果。
工匠們向皇帝要了一百多種顏色的顏料（漆），
又要求了很多的工具；
而讓皇帝很奇怪的是，
和尚們居然只要了一些抹布與水桶等等簡單的清潔用具。
三天之後，皇帝來驗收兩組人員裝修寺廟的結果，
他首先看看工匠們所裝飾的寺廟，
工匠們敲鑼打鼓地慶祝著工程的完成，
他們用了非常多的顏料，
以非常精巧的手藝把寺廟裝飾得五顏六色。
皇帝很滿意地點點頭，
接著回過頭來看看和尚們負責整修的寺廟，
他一看之下就愣住了，
和尚們所整修的寺廟沒有塗上任何的顏料，
他們只是把所有的牆壁、桌椅、窗戶等等都擦拭的非常乾
淨，寺廟中所有的物品都顯出了它們原來的顏色，
而它們光澤的表面就像鏡子一般，
無瑕地反射出從外面,
那天邊多變的雲彩、隨風搖曳的樹影，
甚至是對面五顏六色的寺廟，
都變成了這個寺廟美麗色彩的一部份，
而這座寺廟只是寧靜地接受這一切。
皇帝被這莊嚴的寺廟深深地感動了，當然我們也知道最後的勝負。
我們的心就像是一座寺廟，
我們不需要用各種精巧的裝飾來美化我們的心靈，
我們需要的只是讓內在原有的美，無瑕地顯現出來。
有些事，現在的你如果想不通，就別想了吧！
有些人，現在的你如果無法面對，就別面對了吧！
有些困擾，現在的你如果不能處理，就別處理了吧！
有些情緒，現在的你如果不知如何分析，就別分析了吧！
不想不理不是逃避，而是暫時讓自己從煩惱裡抽離。

若再繼續糾纏下去，恐怕只是讓自己更深陷於一團亂局！

再說，現在的你沒有辦法處理，不代表以後的你也如此無能為力，
所以，你乾脆把那些事那些人那些困擾和情緒暫時
打包裝箱，等到你有能力去解決的時候再從容優雅地處理，
畢竟時間的手不但會把你撫慰得更柔軟、更有智慧，
也會在不知不覺之間把你曾經打包的東西悄悄鬆綁！
(好棒的一段話)
試試讓自己遠離這喧鬧的城市
偶爾享受一下孤獨與心靈做個溝通
有時孤獨的愈久,幸福愈值得期待

从ckkeat2004的部落格看到这篇文章，觉得蛮有意思的，所以就抄过来。。。　呵～～:p
我尤其喜欢highlight的那段文字。。。
很多时候，我们都会不期然的钻牛角尖，殊不知放下会让我们得到更多。

Tips for getting the most out of your meetings

2007-07-13T01:40:00.000-07:00

Not putting a dampener, but let's face it, when it comes to meetings, many among us have been tardy at one point or another. And we tend to digress too. About time we did something about it, right?

Here's some tips for getting the most out of your meetings:

* Draw up an agenda. That way everyone knows exactly what to expect, what's next, etc.
* Why why why. Chairperson, make it clear up front why this meeting is happening, why each person's there. There's usually buy-in when people know their role.
* Chairperson, set and honour times for beginning, ending and breaks. At least try to. We know the real world defies all logic (time included) but seriously, make it your KPI to start and finish on time and keep to the agenda.
* No electronic grazing. Laptops closed. Mobile phones on silent mode. Minimal work on blackberries please.
* If all else fails, bring food!

Above all, remember - meetings do not run themselves.
To utilise everyone's time effectively, a firm hand and a lot of thoughtful planning is required. And for the love of all living beings, please respect your colleagues' time by being punctual (or informing the Chair if you will be late).

端午节快乐

2007-06-19T17:35:00.000-07:00

昨天是端午节,今天才看到这篇可爱的电邮,还是要放上来分享一下.呵~~

包粽子

煮粽子

吃粽子

端午節的由來與典故

農曆五月五日是端午節，和春節、中秋並列為最重要的三個節慶。端午節時值夏季，正是疾病開始流行的季節，因此端午節的由來，可追溯為驅邪避惡，以求身心的平安，後來加入愛國詩人屈原的傳說，更增添了端午節的重要性。

端午節最令人期盼的活動便是划龍舟，台灣各地的主要河川在當天都會舉行盛大的龍舟競賽，選手們隨著隆隆的鼓聲，奮力向前划，在精彩激烈的賽程中，這傳統的習俗得以不斷的延續。

為了驅除疾厄，端午節時可見住家門口都掛菖蒲和艾草，以及「鍾馗」的畫像，成人飲雄黃酒，並讓小孩身配香包，這些物品據說都有避邪，保平安的作用。而台灣的「打午時水」的風俗，亦即汲取端午節中午的井水，據說有治病的療效，此外，若能在正午時將雞蛋直立起來，表示來年會有好運道。

端午節最為人熟知的食品便是粽子，這個原本富有紀念意義的食品，在中國人的巧手製作下，已成為具各種變化，且隨時都能嚐到的美食了。

端午節可說是現存的重要節慶中，歷史最悠久的。由現代的眼光看來，祖先對端午節的看法確有其獨到之處：在這初夏蟲疫滋生之際，以端午節提醒大家做好保健的工作。菖蒲、艾草及雄黃酒固然是傳統避疫保健的方式，現代人應尋求更進步的方式進行保健活動，延續先人的智慧。

端午節是中國三大重要傳統節慶之一，又稱做 "端午 " 、 " 端陽 " 、 " 重五 " ，相傳在戰國時代，屈原「以忠被讒，見疏於懷王，投汨羅江以死」，後人便在五月五日繫粽子投江以弔祭他，感懷屈原的忠誠。故事流傳至今，屈原的冤屈似乎已遭世人的遺忘，反而在每年農曆五月初五端午佳節時，有賽龍舟、掛艾草、飲雄黃酒、吃粽子等習俗的傳承，而粽子也變成約定俗成的應節食物。

Yukie Nishimura - Letter

2007-06-13T17:56:00.001-07:00

Yukie Nishimura - Letter

這樣思考就對了

2007-05-31T22:44:00.000-07:00

转载自: 2007年06月 Cheers雜誌
文—盧智芳
攝影—王竹君

沒有人會懷疑，「思考型工作者」的時代已經降臨，但你是否經常覺得腦袋渾沌，思緒枯竭？看看「出版界金頭腦」郝明義與新科世界棋王周俊勳，如何透過不同方式，建立靈動充沛的思考力。

大塊文化董事長郝明義：用懷疑＋閱讀打通任督二脈

總是在出版界創造驚奇的大塊文化董事長郝明義，最近又寫下一項個人紀錄：他剛完成的新書《越讀者》，雖然醞釀7年，但神奇地只花了8天就完成初稿。「沒有越界不成閱讀，」面對洶湧而來的資訊流，郝明義大膽預告一個「越讀者時代」的來臨。

郝明義8年前出版的《工作DNA》，字字珠璣睿智，至今仍對許多人影響深遠。然而，郝明義的思考效率顯然更令人咋舌。

對郝明義來說，思考的本質是什麼？

「沒有任何人比笛卡爾講得更好。『我思故我在』的『思』，指的是懷疑，」郝明義解釋。對任何習以為常的觀念、行為方式，都應該保持懷疑，懷疑不是唯一、最適的解答，轉而搜尋其他的可能。

「好奇--懷疑--求解」的過程，霸佔了郝明義人生極長的時間，而且他駐足思考處，也真的就是一般人覺得理所當然，根本沒什麼需要多想的地方。

1個字，困擾10年

光是「策略（strategy）」這個字，竟然整整困擾了郝明義將近10年。

1988年，郝明義當上時報出版公司的總經理。要扛營運責任，「策略」當然是標準配備。只是，「日常工作跟『策略』的分界到底在哪裡？」總在不疑處有疑的郝明義，開始整天心頭縈繞著這個問號。

他拼命研究各種企管理論，但怎麼看就是不滿意。直到1995年，郝明義終於得出結論。「策略就是不以一時勝負為勝負，」郝明義笑著說，「定義不弄清楚，沒法覺得我是在做總經理，」他這才如釋重負，更篤定地走出經營之路。

「策略」之外，包括「流行」、「娛樂」這些字彙，都曾引動郝明義長期的困惑。他總要在腦袋裡不斷交互詰問，一再推翻之前的理解，可也因此得到精采的詮釋。像《越讀者》這本書，同樣是他追索「閱讀到底是怎麼回事？」後，組織各種片段思維催生出的創作。

事實上，閱讀始終是郝明義思考時最仰賴的資源之一：「閱讀讓你思考，一旦你啟動思考，又得回頭去找更多能幫助思考的閱讀，」郝明義說明。因此，「千萬不要只選讀來輕鬆舒暢的東西，」他認為。閱讀帶點難度的作品，譬如經典，才能提升腦力。

筆記就是我的大腦紋

筆記則是強化記憶的利器。郝明義喜歡在書上密密麻麻地劃線，精采處打星號，旁邊還加註「5」表示「5顆星」。「你不可能把每本書都看完，但要知道每本書的價值在哪裡，」他累積60幾本筆記本，寫滿讀後感與相關隨筆。郝明義戲稱，這是他的「私人大腦紋」。

郝明義很喜歡透過「閱讀、理想、夢想」6個字來談：「閱讀常為我們開啟一扇理想與夢想的窗戶，但它們也可能反過來，當你思考如何跨越現實與理想的鴻溝時，閱讀是找到路徑最重要的工具。」

這項工具還有個很棒的特性，「書最微妙就是：你永遠在意想不到的時候發現，天哪，它就等在那裡！」郝明義帶著一種「高人」般的微笑說。

LG世界棋王周俊勳：推翻慣性，隨時都用新的方式贏

27歲的周俊勳笑起來很靦腆，是個典型雙魚座、細緻又感性的大男生，跟他那令人肅然起敬的稱謂「周9段」實在不大搭軋──雖然，台灣從1979年成立職業圍棋制度以來，唯一的9段棋士的確就是他。

6歲開始學棋，周俊勳至今拿下35個冠軍、6個亞軍，最佳戰績當然是勇奪第11屆LG盃世界棋王，成為新的「台灣之光」。

圍棋是種古老又深奧的藝術，黑白子間的攻守進退，除了雙方鬥智，更考驗理性、耐性、對未來預期的準確度。所謂「圍棋式的思考法」，指的就是一種長期觀點：看得愈遠，現在做決策的成功機率就愈高。

做為棋王，周俊勳如何建立思考力？

周俊勳的記憶力很好，7歲就記住1,200多種棋譜。各種高手的棋形堆疊在他的潛意識裡，只要棋盤出現相似的布局，他很自然就會下出接近高手思維的好棋。

用轉變棋風克服低潮

但要成為頂尖的棋士，光靠博學強記還不夠。靠著10次以上「瓶頸──突破──瓶頸──再突破」的起伏煎熬，他才練就一身功力。

「每次大幅度進步前，都會先陷入低潮，」周俊勳描述：「腦袋突然間就卡住了，」連過去有用的戰略也跟著失效。

這時候他採取的策略，是「轉變棋風」。聽來簡單，對棋士來說，卻是思想上的大工程。

「棋風」指的是下棋時一貫的走向與偏好，就像武林宗派，代表一種風格、哲學，也是一種思考模式。

在周俊勳學棋的生涯裡，有幾位關鍵大師，各自傳授給他不同的棋風。像他9歲拜在戴嘉伸7段門下做住宿弟子，戴嘉伸的棋風犀利，擅於攻擊侵略，有一陣子，周俊勳下棋就用刻意挑釁來累積勝利。

然而，晉級過程中，他慢慢發現，直線式的戰鬥讓他不進反退。於是10歲時，周俊勳又到林聖賢7段家裡住了半年。林聖賢重視全局判斷，不拘泥局部得失，讓周俊勳有了新的啟發。

12歲到成都跟著大陸名師、成都棋院「西南王」宋雪林學習，則是另一個重要轉捩點。宋雪林教他「棄子」，「尋求對方的弱點，不一定只有決一死戰，」周俊勳說。透過大膽、有計劃的放棄某些棋子，後來反而能得到更大的優勢。

棋風沒有絕對的好壞，但是，每多學一種棋風，周俊勳就像又多出一種選項，推翻熟悉的思考慣性：「原來棋也可以這樣下。」通常他能因此超越先前比自己更強勁的對手。

從檢討中學習

不過，要補足思考盲點，光靠「聽」是沒用的。「錯誤會一犯再犯，」周俊勳必須每天不斷跟老師對弈，局後重新演練檢討，找出敗著。他一天花在下棋的時間，幾乎都超過10小時，連坐車、走路，腦袋裡也被棋盤塞滿。

目前他比較偏向務實、快速的棋風，「這是我自己找出來的，找到喜好才能發揮潛能，」周俊勳帶點頑皮地說：「不過以後還會改變。」

他喜歡每次都用不同的方式贏──周俊勳的思考力就跟他的未來一樣，還有無限的可能。

若无闲事挂心头，便是人间好时节

2007-05-31T09:13:00.000-07:00

出处: 《无关门·第十九则》
作者:无门慧开

春有百花秋有月，夏有凉风冬有雪。
若无闲事挂心头，便是人间好时节。
--------宋·无门慧开

黄龙慧开世称无门和尚，又称无门慧开禅师。
禅师最初礼天龙肱和尚为受业师，批剃出家，后来遍历天下名山道场，寻师访道，但一直无法契机，于是到平江府（江苏省）万寿寺参礼黄龙派下的月林师观禅师，月林禅师教慧开参“无”字话头。

直到有一天，慧开在法堂内经行，一片寂寥之中，从斋堂那头传来一阵阵绵绵密密如排山倒海般的鼓击声，慧开心中久远以来的疑团，顿然消失，豁然醒悟。

这首诗出自黄龙慧开禅师的名著“无门关”的第十九则，朗朗上口，最为佛家弟子爱颂，也是最能表达禅者“法而随缘”自然无作的精神。
这则公案是叙述赵州从谂请教师傅南泉普愿禅师的公案。
赵州问南泉： “什么是道？”，南泉回答说：“平常心是道”。
问：“道可有趣向？”，答：“拟向便是乖逆。”
赵州又问：“如何了道？”南泉回答说：“道不属于知，也不属于不知，知是妄觉，不知是无记。”
赵州言下豁然洞明，无门慧开因此写下此偈，来赞颂这段公案。

这首诗告诉我们为什么世人不能享受人生的美好时节，因为我们心中有事，而且有太多的闲事悬挂在心头：
我们担心社会地位不够显赫；事业不够亨通发达；待遇不够优渥，夫妻生活不够融洽；
儿孙不够孝顺成才；朋友待我不够敬重；所求不能满足心愿；身体多病衰弱；人我是非烦心等等。
肚里填满名闻利养，心中充塞财势情欲，再也挪不出一丝闲情去呼吸江上的清风，欣赏山间的明月，
因此，春天的百花开得再绚丽，与我情不相干；
冬日的皑皑白雪如何宜人，和我有何关系？
我们如果能以临济无事人的平常心，去面对日常生活中横逆困顿、人我关系上的矛盾纠缠，休生闲气，
必能享受山夫渔父“富贵银千树，风流玉一蓑”的雅趣。

真正的人生享受不是名利钱财，而是能感受到自然界的诸多美景，体会到蕴涵其中的自然韵味。
这种享受对人人都是平等无异，惟求先能放下心中的执着与追求。
不然，就算美景当前亦如无视罢了。

吾日三省吾身

2007-05-23T23:03:00.000-07:00

出处: 《论语今解·学而第一》
注解: 卫君翰
转载自: 国学网

0004 曾子曰：吾日三省吾身，为人谋而不忠乎？与朋友交而不信乎？传不习乎？

本章是曾子说的一句话，可以将它分为四段来分析。

第一段：吾日三省吾身。
这有两种解释，第一种是我每一天都自我反省三（多）次；
第二种是我每一天都以下列三件事来自我反省。
小弟以为后者能和下文有较好的衔接所以较为合适。

第二、三、四段即第一段所指的三件事，而且每一段的层次与所指的目标皆有不同。

第二段为人谋而不忠乎？
是说为别人谋划办事，是否有尽心尽力？
此段要与第三段有所区隔的话，这里的“人”应泛指所有人甚至包括那些素昧平生的人，且为人谋不一定要真的与别人面对面一起坐下来谋划并起而办事，一切可能会对他人发生影响的事，不论大小都应包括在内。
例如我们和并未见过曾子本人，更不曾和他一起谋划办事，但曾子完成大学经一章及孝经，的的确确对我们为人处事、求知求学有莫大的助益。
因此这也可说是曾子为我们尽心尽力地谋划办事了。
在此郑重感谢曾子以如此严谨的态度来完成大学经一章及孝经，为我们保留了这么美好的文化资产。

言归正传，第三段：与朋友交而不信乎？
是说与朋友交往有没有做到诚实信用？
曾子并未在此处解释说明这个信字，不过论语以后还有多处会再提到信，届时我们再来谈谈。

第四段：传不习乎？
这又有两种解释，这两种解释来自对曾子不同身份的假设，
一是此句话是学生时代年轻的曾子所言，则传不习乎就是老师所传授给我的课业是否有还不曾复习、演练的部份？
二是此句话是老师时代年长的曾子所言，则传不习乎就是我所传授给他人的东西，是不是都是经过自己反复思考、演练确定为真的东西？
换句话说，就是不含那些人云亦云、道听途说的东西。
小弟以为以后者意义较为深广；又以语气而言：我为人谋…？我与朋友交…？我传（予他人）…？亦较为通顺；况且其实这整句话谦虚中还带有不少成熟的气势，而以曾子的个性来看，学生时代年轻的曾子谦虚是有的，但大概还不太会有说这整句话的成熟气势。因此小弟是比较支持后者的。

现在再把小弟支持的译法整理一下———
曾子说：我每一天都以下列三件事来自我反省：一是我为别人谋划办事是否有尽心尽力？二是我与朋友交往有没有做到诚实信用？三是我有没有把一些未经过自己反复思考、演练确定为真的东西传授给别人？

过而能改,善莫大焉

2007-05-23T17:44:00.000-07:00

出处:《左传·宣公二年》

“人谁无过，过而能改，善莫大焉！” 这句话, 说得很辩证, 很实际
意思是讲, 人谁没用错误，有错误而能够改过，那就是最大的好事。

这句话有一个历史故事。故事里的一个人物，却是"过而不能改"，
结果当然不会是善事而成了最大的坏事。

春秋晋国的晋灵公，做了国君很不象话，他残酷地搜括百姓的钱财，
用来装饰宫廷的墙壁；他建造了一个高台，在高台上用弹弓瞄准台
下行人弹射，看他们惊慌逃避以此取乐；厨工煮熊掌没有煮熟，就
杀死他，让宫女把尸体放在箩筐里运出宫去，大臣赵盾、士季看到
了尸体露在箩筐外面的手，查问到原因，又愤怒又忧虑。他们商量
着要进宫去谏劝晋灵公。

士季说：“让我先去进谏，希望国君能改正过错；如果不改，您再
去谏劝." 赵盾同意了。

士季进宫后，晋灵公坐在殿上，装着没看见。直到士季站在殿外滴
水檐下，灵公才不得不招呼他。士季婉转地劝灵公不能这样胡作非
为。灵公敷衍他说：“我知道错了，我一定改！”

士季叩着头说：“人谁无过，过而能改，善莫大焉。大王能勇于
改过，是晋国的幸事。”

但是，实际上灵公没有改，也不想改。于是赵盾准备进宫去严肃地
谏劝一番了。

灵公十分讨厌大臣们的罗嗦，但对于刚正的赵盾有些恐惧。因此就
派刺客去行刺赵盾，但没有成功。灵公又在宫中埋伏了甲士，想趁赵
盾进宫时杀掉他，赵盾又被手下的人救了出去。

灵公这样的倒行逆施，激怒了其他的大臣，赵盾的堂兄弟赵穿就
发动兵变，把晋灵公杀死了。

晋灵公的死，恰好从反面证明，一个人有错不改，任其发展，最后
将酿成无法挽回的恶果。

译述：

春秋时晋国灵公因厨司为他煮熊掌不熟, 他一生气立刻下令把厨司杀了。

大臣士季知道后进宫要谏劝他。晋灵公不待士开口随便说：“我知道错了，今天一定改正。”

土季便说：“人谁无过，过而能改，善莫大焉。”
意思是：哪一个人没有错误，有了错误能够改正，那是最大的好事。

其实，晋灵并不想改过，只是讨厌土季的谏劝才这么敷衍一下的。
事后，暴虐嗜杀，还几次相杀死晋王的忠臣赵盾，最后被赵盾的族弟赵穿杀死。

士季说的这句话是正确的，成为名言流传后世。
人都可能犯错误，有了错误，改了就好。如果知错不改，就会酿成恶果，
晋灵王是一个反面榜样。

人们现在常用着句话来劝诫犯错误的人。
比如：“你的错误是不小，希望你真心诚意的改正；
古人说， '人谁无过，过而能改，善莫大焉。' 坏事也能转化为好事的。”

如果按着句名言的精神，概括得在简略．通俗一点，就是“知错必改”。

注解 ：
过 --- 过失、错误。
莫大 --- 没有比 ... ... 再大。
焉 --- 文言代词，常用在句尾，指代句子所提这件事。

Organizational culture

2007-05-22T07:59:00.000-07:00

Originated from: QBQ QuickNote
Written by John G. Miller (Author of QBQ! and Flipping the Switch)

I've been in the training industry since 1986 and have heard many discussions about organizational "culture"—and lots of definitions of what it is:

"The way we do things." "Shared values." "Accepted norms of behavior." "How we talk to and treat each other."

I don't know what the right definition is, but one exercise we at QBQ, Inc. like to take teams through is to allow them to describe their current culture—let's call it Culture 1—using up to ten adjectives. Then we ask them to describe what they want to become, calling that Culture 2. Interestingly, there's always a Culture 2. No matter how excellent, profitable, or storied an organization is, we've never seen a team not describe Culture 2 differently—and better—than Culture 1. In other words, everybody seeks to improve, yet rarely does it happen! Why?

Lack of personal accountability.

As individuals we abdicate our ownership role in moving from "C1" to "C2." We step back thinking, I'm not going to take the risk. I'll let others do it. But here's the reality: Organizations change only when people change. And what must change are the questions we ask. Here are five Incorrect Questions (IQs) that hold our organizations back, because they hold each of us back.

"Why do we have to go through all this change?"
"When is someone going to train me?"
"Who made the mistake?"
"Why don't others walk their talk?"
"Who's going to improve this place?"

Now let's use The Question Behind the Question and change these IQs to QBQs:

"What can I do to adapt to the changing world?"
"How can I develop myself?"
"What can I do to help?"
"How can I practice the principles I espouse?"
"What action can I take to have positive impact?"

Converting any or all of the IQs to QBQs will change our cultures, but let's focus on that last QBQ. A favorite client years ago, Mike Berman of Boston Scientific, asked this insightful question regarding the Super Hot Fad of the 1990s—Empowerment: "Is power given or is power taken?" It's a worthy debate, but one thing that's clear is this: Those who do not feel "empowered" often play The Blame Game, pointing fingers at the ... culture! And at people with position power such as executives and managers. Of course we still need bosses, when the "bullets are flying" we don't call a meeting—someone needs to take charge. But we're not talking here about times of crisis, but every day culture. And just as people blame management when they don't feel empowered, people also complain about cultures they don't like. But the truth is culture is created by people, by individuals—by you and me. It's never about "the company"—we just think it is. It's really about ...

The Power of One:

One person changing their own view of self, of others, and of taking risk.
One person who dares to speak up in a meeting disagreeing with those with bigger titles.
One person who'll call a problem a problem and not use code-talk like "opportunity" or "challenge."
One person willing to be direct with the boss.
One person who says "I own this place!"—not financially but emotionally.
One person who worries less about their next performance review and more about doing the right thing.
One person who walks away when others are whispering, "When are they gonna tell us what's going on?!"
One person bold enough to identify the "elephant in the room" and then offer ideas that contribute.
One person who is tired of playing the game of politics and just wants to get the job done.
One person who simply asks, "What action can I take right now to have positive impact?"

I want to be this One Person—this person who knows I am the "One" in the phrase "The Power of One." I want to help create a QBQ! Culture. And that's where I want to work.

How about you?

Working Mood Change

2007-05-17T22:57:00.000-07:00

I received this email from a friend just now, I found it quite funny.
Moreover, the babies are so cute~~~ ^_^

This is your state when you come to work...

Monday

Tuesday

Wednesday

Thursday

Friday

Last one is ultimate...
Saturday & Sunday

It's Friday today, you look very happy now, don't you?
So tomorrow I'll be sleeping like a pig.... haha~~

My Sharing Space

帮助孩子面对他们的感受

有所悟

Donut

Can you read this?

王永慶的一席話

Health Important Notice

Dream properties

Can I Borrow $25?

人性中的貪婪

客服人員的七種等級

Joke about Mr. Bean

非同凡想 #2

非同凡想 #1

Truck art from Germany

Dream Land - Switzerland #4

Dream Land - Switzerland #3

Dream Land - Switzerland #2

Dream Land - Switzerland #1

The journey of our Life

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喝水讓你常保安康

Are you drinking the right tea?

Proper Baby Care - Funny! #3

Proper Baby Care - Funny! #2

Proper Baby Care - Funny! #1

明白它们,你会发现你的人生在改变

Gates' Rules

10 things you can do

Timbaland ft One Republic - Apologize

Shayne Ward - A Better Man

Shayne Ward - No Promises

Shayne Ward - It's My Goal

人生

《布衣神相》 主题曲

《布衣神相》 片尾曲

最适合女性的6种运动

Happy New Year

This is called Discipline

10 ways to be your own life coach

QBQ! - Choosing to give

我只有八歲 ！你记得你八岁是如何过的么？

Bon Jovi - It's My Life

巴菲特的建言

Learn to Say NO!

相由心生

Bon Jovi - (You Want To) Make A Memory

The QBQ! Manager

酒後喝茶傷腎

You're The Inspiration

Team Effectiveness Assessment

心目中的廟

Tips for getting the most out of your meetings

端午节快乐

Yukie Nishimura - Letter

這樣思考就對了

大塊文化董事長郝明義：用懷疑＋閱讀打通任督二脈

1個字，困擾10年

筆記就是我的大腦紋

LG世界棋王周俊勳：推翻慣性，隨時都用新的方式贏

用轉變棋風克服低潮

從檢討中學習

若无闲事挂心头，便是人间好时节

吾日三省吾身

过而能改,善莫大焉

Organizational culture

Working Mood Change

《布衣神相》主题曲

《布衣神相》片尾曲

我只有八歲！你记得你八岁是如何过的么？